[caiello]

If you attend a bridal shower and bring a gift, do you have to bring a gift to the wedding also?

[N0help4u]

Yes
Usually the bridal shower is more a personal gift for the bride such as lingerie
And the wedding gift is usually more of a household thing.

[tickle]

Sometimes those invited to the bridal shower, are not invited to the wedding.

[LearningAsIGo]

"Technically" a wedding gift is not required. Commonly, yes, a gift is given for both occasions. Make your decision based on whatever works with your budget. If money is an issue, maybe you could give a card with an invitation for dinner at your house, or a small gift card for their favorite store.

By the way, lots of people who gave me shower gifts did not give us a wedding gift even though they did attend.

[tickle]

I really don't know how some people can justify, being invited to a wedding, not taking a gift of some kind. It doesn't have to be expensive.

Years ago I had a lovely Polish wedding and lots of showers given by different people, most came to the wedding as well and gave monetary gifts. They would not have come if they couldn't give. That's the way it was forty years ago in our community. It wasn't a rich one but there was a certain etiquette for just about everything that everyone followed.

[beckyphi]

What is a suggested amount for a wedding gift?

[davina4822]

It is true there is no rule that states a gift is required as a stipulation for attending a wedding. Weddings are, after all, sacred rites and not fund-raisers. On the other hand, you really shouldn't take the "I gave at the office" approach, using your bridal shower gift as a reason. If you care enough about the couple to attend the event, a gift is appropriate. As mentioned in an earlier response, this does not have to be expensive or elaborate. Think about what they enjoy as a couple; you could arrange to plant a tree for environmentalists, name a star if they like to stargaze, etc. Offer your services to the couple to help write thank-you notes after the wedding and include stamps with the wedding card, give them something you make yourself; well, you get the idea.

The one rule I always follow is to send the gift to the bride's home (or their joint home if they are already living together) beforehand,and not bring it to the wedding/reception. These folks have enough on their minds and plates besides trying to figure out how to get the gifts home after the wedding.

[Leith]

I would say yes. Because I've always thought the BRIDAL shower was just presents for the bride and well as some people have already said a personal gift such as under wear ( o.o) but if I was you I would take a present to the wedding also something nice for the both of them to enjoy ^_^ not saying the husband won't enjoy the under clothing XD!! ^_^ but if you don't want to don't my mom didn't have a bridal shower so I don't know I'm just saying what's I've always thought

[fjsmith81]

caiello,
Yes, yes, yes. If you are invited to both you have to bring a gift for both. It sucks, but wouldn't you want someone to return the favor?

Becky,
It depends on how close you are to the family. I generally view going to a wedding like a dinner at a restaurant. I usually spend $75-$100 just on myself on dinner and drinks, and the bride and groom are providing a meal and drinks, so I can at least afford to pay for that. Oh and it's usually a gift at the bridal shower, and money at the actual wedding. (I do that so they can choose to spend it on putting it toward the wedding, honeymoon, house, etc.)

[tickle]

It's a given really. One should know b eing invited to a wedding will be expensive. If you are on the invitation for the wedding, you will be on at least one shower and most showers have themes now. The invite will say, 'personal stuff for the new bride', or 'kitchen ware'.

In any event, one does not go empty handed to the wedding; I always deliver my gift to the mother's house and normally there is a table set up to receive such gifts.