[mydogquestion]

The other day when walking to my car a man pulls up beside me and asks me if I have had lunch and could he buy me lunch. I say I am on my way to work .He tells me I am an incredibly beautiful woman and he would like to buy lunch. I say I am really on my way to work and thank you for the compliment. He gives me a business card and say call me.

My first thought is wow its nice to be called beautiful but is he a freak or just a guy that is confident. So do I call?? Does this sound like a freak or an outgoing guy?? What are your thoughts?

[lmangileri]

Wow. He does sound confident. Not sure if he's a freak or not but if you decide to call him go some place public.

[mydogquestion]

Thanks Imangileri, If I call I would meet him in a very public place and give his busniess card to my co workers . Just not sure if I should call. I was hoping some men could give some input. I just turned 50 but look in my early fortys . At this stage of the game meeting men isn't easy but I sure do not need any freaks .

[N0help4u]

Does the business he is with sound like a decent reputable on the up and up business?
Sometimes you can tell a little about a person by the work they do. Also what would calling and talking hurt? Make sure you block your number if you do call though.
Just calling and trying to get to know him better isn't like a commitment that you HAVE to meet him or anything. If he works near you maybe you could meet at a decent restaurant for lunch.

[zawatska]

Lol on your last post. You're cute. :)
You should wait a few days, then call him. Make a doube date or something... its never too late to meet the man of your dreams!

[mydogquestion]

Thanks for the input . I guess I could look up his company and see if its legitimate. A call does not have to turn into anything more. It has been one day since he gave me his card I am thinking if I call I will wait till Friday.That way if he sounds OK over the phone we could meet for lunch next week. Don't want to seem desperate.

[zawatska]

Very true. You know what you're doing.

[brkfstatiffs]

Sounds like a player to me. I never call the guy, they can call me if they want to take me out.

[SweetDee]

I agree w/ nohelp4u. Check him out! Make sure he's in the up and up... You cannot be too safe. He's a man, which makes him a possible threat, I mean men can be dangerous. I understand how difficult it can be to meet men sometimes, for sure. Be intelligent about it. He gave you his card, you now have some information. You need to be proactive and clear him for landing, (lol). Make it safe for you. Meet in a public forum. Maybe even keep it public for a few dates. He's a stranger. You need to learn to trust this vertual possible preditor.

I have had a lot of men want to meet me and come up to me in a public scenario... and I have to say, for me it's not a comfortable situation. I don't know him, he's not connected to anyone that can vouch for him. Having said that, I also feel like if you are smart about getting to know this stranger you may be meeting the man of your dreams. Just be smart. Call the company he works for and ask them there about him, (ask him first if it would be okay if you asked about him to his co-workers, of course YOU BE THE ONE TO CHOOSE WHICH ONE, because the latter in my opinion is just plain suspitious). Keep him in a public realm for a long enough time. Dinner, movies, walks in the city or beach. Just stay out and about. In this day and age you can't be too sure. He'll think you're even the more wonderful for being so cautious. Because why the rush?

[mydogquestion]

Update!! Checked out his business card. The phone number is a cell . The business is not in the phone book,white or yellow pages. I did a white pages lookup with his name and the state and a local home address came up with a woman same last name in the same household. Way to many red flags for me so there will be no call to him. I guess the freak meter was right in the beginning!!

[JBeaucaire]

"Trust, but verify." - Ronald Reagan.

[SweetDee]

Well, thank goodness you did your homework! Honestly, WHAT A JERK, and he thought he'd get away w/ that... men don't get away w/ much anymore. Let's just ALL be empowered like mydoggyquestion... YAYYYYYYYYYY!:):)

[zawatska]

My Mom owns a business, and has business cards that only have her cell listed and she's also not listed anywhere in the phone book... that way if someone has questions, they can contact her asap if the business is closed or whatever... And could the woman you saw with the same last name be a daughter? A niece? If anything, I would call and make small chit chat, and at the end of the conversation ask him who lives with him... and this all could be a coincidence, don't jump to conclusions, but you are free to do what you want...

[mydogquestion]

I understand that his cell would be unlisted but how can you run a business that has no listings. He has no licence for his business listed with the county.It could be his own business but it still should be listed. Also the woman at the address in whitepages is the same age so I am sure it is not his child. I have no problem dating men that are divorced. But under no circumstances will date someone who is not totally single.

[zawatska]

True- but maybe he's divorced & she doesn't live there anymore. And if he thought you were beautiful and you say your older, I would give him the benefit of the doubt... im sure there's got to be some explanation... maybe I'm too trustworthy- I don't know. Its your call hun!

[Vinj]

Tsk tsk tsk.

Good thing you made some research first.

[zawatska]

You should call and ask for Mrs Whatever her name is... see if she is still there...