[stickbone12]

I'm 17 and my girlfriend is 16. We have been dating for about 3 and a halve months. I honestly do feel like she is the best thing that has happened in my life and I do feel like I'm (in) love with her. I'm always telling her how much I love her and hugging and kissing her (and giving her her own space too) but she rarely says that she loves me, and I'm forced to assume she does; otherwise it would make me a bad boyfriend I guess. She does love to kiss me in private, at the movies... so on, but she is a P.D.A. freak and will barely just hug me in school, around friends ( if someone who knows her, or me is around, she will just hold my hand or only hug me in cases that we would normally kiss). Lately since school started she has been finding it fairly hard to make time for me (we have only gone out once since school started about 2 weeks ago and it was with friends to the school football game) She has never done anything to make me doubt her, but at times I don't feel like she really loves me - example ( I think if she really loved me, she shouldn't have a problem kissing me in front of friends). I don't know what to do please help!

[ylaira]

We'll have you ever communicated how you feel? What she says?

[chinaware]

Some people are different. Sometimes kissing around friends can be a bit awkward at times especially around the first few months but I honestly think you shouldn't jump into any conclusions that she doesn't feel that way towards you. I think the best move right now is to talk to her since you have gone out for more than a couple of months and ask her what she really wants and how she feels.

[JBeaucaire]

If you really cared for her, you wouldn't need her to demonstrate affection in uncomfortable ways.

You're young, I get that. Learn something now: Love is about how YOU act, it's not about what you get back. It's ALWAYS about what you give.

You're going to love/like a lot of girls. You should do right by every single one of them. One day, your love will be the kind that has you doing all sorts of "out of character" selfless things for her. And surprise... you'll be with a girl doing it back to you... not because you require it, but because she wants to.

THAT's the day you'll stop and consider your current love as possibly one of those "forever" loves.

In the meantime, you just do right by them. Love them, be yourself, and slap yourself every single time you think to yourself "If she loved me she would change in ______ way."

That's not love, that's "feeling" coupled with "inexperience". You have to master that and make it go away.

[xFalkenx]

I never dated during high school because everybody's body is changing and going through different stages of physical and emotional change( given I am only 18). How long have you known this girl? And how well. Sorry if I sound mean or arrogant but maturity plays a big part in it. And what are your and her motives and expectations for the relationship. Is she or you in the relationship for the right reasons. Maybe she doesn't know how to handle the situation and is confused by all the other changes in her life and doesn't know how to proceed. I say just give it time to play out and don't expect a long lasting relationship because maybe she's not looking for what your looking 4