[rex123]

Last night my dad started fighting with my two brothers and kicked them out. I can't stand it when people fight and neither can my dog. When they started fighting he came down to my room and wouldn'T leave my side. And then they started cursing and getting really loud so I shut my door and cranked the music. But it wasn'T loud enough to drowned them out. And then my parents told them to get their things and get out. I started to cry(and rex kept licking my face):o They've been gone since last night and already I miss them so much I don't know what to do.

Life ain't going to great right now, mom's sick, dad has a drinking problem, and now my brothers are gone. I mean don'T get me wrong I love my mom and dad to death. You know its quite Ironic dad kicked them out because he thought they were using drugs, but even if they were it wasn'T hurting us as much as my dads drinking. Its not that dads drinks 24/7 its like 2-3 times a week but when he drinks he drinks too much and you always got to watch out around him cause anything you say or do could set him off. I can't see what there is left here for me anymore. I can't stay here if dads drinking keeps up.(he was drinking last night when he kicked them out, ha). I tell my mother persistently I don't feel safe, and this is my own house, how the hell can that be right. When dad drinks its almost as if rex(my dog) knows that I feel unsafe and he'll follow me around everywhere. Don't read this the wrong way I'm not going to commit suicide or anything like that. But I don't know if I can keep living here. I know I couldn'T go far I'm only 16 but my grandmother lives down the hill from us maybe I could even live there for a while? I don't know. I guess you know what they say things get worse before they get better but hell mom even told me a couple weeks ago that she didn'T know if she should stay at our house or leave, because of the drinking. I don'T know what to do anymore.

[0rphan]

Hi... Thank god for Rex... what a sweety

You have a lot going on here, mainly due to your dads drinking.I think you have to wait until he's in a good spell before you can approach him on the subject.

You mum and yourself together need to say to dad.. ".we need to speak to you", tell him how it's affecting you and how your considering moving out because your frightened of what might happen when he drinks, tell him that you have both had enough, the constant argueing the fact that your brothers have gone and also your mum wants to go, in fact the whole family,. because of his drinking... is breaking down.

Explain that it is very hard to speak up like this, but someone has to do it, the alternative is the whole family going their separate ways... let him see that you are serious about this it is not just a passng phaze, it needs to be sorted... and very soon.

If you and your mum back each other up, stick together on this he will get the message and realize that you are both being totally serious and that you will carry out what you say... leave

Tell him you love him to bits and don't wish this to happen, which is why your speaking up now in the hope that he will see reason and do something about it.



Goodluck

[rex123]

Thanks Orphan. I wish I could just tell him how its affecting our family but I wouldn'T know what to say. About a year ago my oldest brother and my parents fought quite a bit so he moved out and him and his girlfriend went to live together, but my parents let him come back because his girlfriend was treating him poorly and was very controlling and abusive. But when he moved out I hadn'T talked to him for two weeks and that just killed me, I don't want that to happen again. When my brothers were home they always made jokes and lightened the mood, I guess I took them for granted. I could really use their sense of humor and sarcastic remarks right now.

[isabelle]

I am glad you have your dog. He sounds like he is a great comfort to you.
Has your mother ever threatened to leave your dad before. Do you think she is seriously considering it this time?
Do your think that Mom and Dad would consent to you staying with your Grandmother for a little while just to get yourself back into a good place?
Being 16 is very hard. I bet sometimes you feel as if you have no control over anything that goes on in your life?
Maybe there is a school councilor or another adult that your could talk to if you are uncomfortable taking with your dad and mom right now?