[flufanuta]

I split with my partner of 7 years 3 weeks ago and they have been the worst weeks of my life - I wish I found this site earlier!! The posts and comments on here are all really helpful however I now feel like the worst is yet to come!

Im moving out of our house next week which I know is the best thing to do as at the moment but its really hard even though the break up has been amicable and we are still friends.
The thing is that now I really feel like I need something to focus on and do with myself, I feel like I have wasted the past 7 years and need to get out and start doing the things that I have wanted to but not done. Im finding this especially hard as I can't really focus my mind and am so indecisive, I don't want to do something impulsive and it go wrong so I don't do anything!
I really would like to travel somewhere on my own and do lots of clearing my head out but I just don't know where or what to do. I think I need to find myself again but how do I do this?
Your help would be very much appreciated.

[Ithappenstoall]

It is great that you are looking at clearing you head and trying to move on. At this point I would think that moving out is already a first and big step. Regarding clearing your head, I would suggest leaving your town for a little and be in a unknown environment. Try going somewhere you two have never been that way nothing over there will remind you of him. This would be my first suggestion. Get some alone time. Go for a spa weekend somewhere and think about you and only you for a change.

[Ettevy]

7 years. I have been there. Trust me, you will feel better soon. That being said, definiely clear your head by getting a new hobby. It really is working out for me and it has only been a week since my break up. Healing is necessary. Work on you from now on. Walk around the mall, run errands, get out there and look good. Somehow, this always makes me feel better.

[chuff]

It sounds like you have the option to get out of town and if you can I recommend it, even a small drive away from town for a day can clear your mind. I also recommend you start excercising, getting a gym membership, walking or anything else will get you feeling better. In your post you say your not sure what to do, I've been there and my advice is don't worry about what to do... just do something. Anything is better then sitting around being mad about the past. As an example if you take up tennis and it turns out not to be your thing, you've at least learned that's not for you. But your at least trying and getting new experiences for yourself.