[ScottGem]

If I the costodial parent (father) did not give the non custodial parent (mother) the children during the schedule ordered visitation she could file contempt charges on me. If she the non-custodial parent just ups and leaves and in no contact with the children for 3 months + because as of today we still have no contact with her, you all mean there is nothing I can do other than go to court.

First, I disagree with your analogy. You are not refusing to give her the children for her scheduled visitation she is refusing to take them. If the situation were reversed nothing would happen to you. Second, I doubt seriously if the visitation "plan" is mandatory either. I've never heard of a visitation schedule that forces the non custodial parent to adhere to it.

I don't recall if you said how old the children are, but I think you need to deal with mommy's disappointing them as best you can. You might need to get the help of a therapist to do so.

Finally, you really should focus on the child support issues. If she is dodging support then she can be jailed as well. You need to enlist your local family services agency in collecting.

Bottomline, it should make no difference whether the non custodial parent is the mother or father in enforcing child support.

[Fr_Chuck]

Ok, some already covered, some notm,

Mother has not come to visit the children, but the phone calls in most states will be considered contract, even calls where you refuse to allow her to speak to the kids, esp if there is a distance between them, or other issue mother may decide to tell the courts. So her phone log for courts will be proof of attempts to stay in contact with the children.

At this point there is no real criminal issue, this is a civil issue of child custody and divorce. The fact she left is great to get full cusody of the children and limited visist rights for mother, So if you do not have an attorney and have filed for custody or to modify any current custody order that is what you need to do.

[JudyKayTee]

Just wanted to say you might have abandonment and endangerment confused. but then I suppose different states use different wording. Still, a form of endangerment is leaving child alone for a shorter/specific period of time and then returning as to where abandonment is never returning....

Just got to ask. I see many similarities between your "style" and advice, location, experience and those of someone else - are you someone returning with a new user name?