[is this right]

I am 30 and am dating a 24 year old girl. She is mature beyond her years and we have been seeing each other for 3 months. We both treat each other as equals on the age thing, and don't recognise it as an issue at all.

Things have moved quickly, and we are so comfortable together, and it works well as we have our own social lives etc...

We had our first holiday together, 3 days away and it was brilliant. Since being back, things have changed though. We had a great time, and both of us laughed a lot, and we hate being back at work now etc...

I for some reason have developed a feeling of anxiety/clinginess, that worries me. Not sure why I am worried about the relationship, or her commitment to it. She has given me no signals to suggest anything is wrong at all, in fact it is better than before we went away.

Why do I feel like I now need constant reassurance from her? I know if I seek it it will give off the wrong impression, and I am just being silly about this.

Am I going crazy? I know it is too full on, and shouldn't feel like this, I need to chill out and let it take its course.

Maybe it is because I am falling for her... dare I use the 'L' word!

I think I am thinking too much about it. But after 3 days together to then going back to not seeing her for 4-5 days at a time, I guess I miss her too...

[JBeaucaire]

Three months is nothing. You're starting to think a lot more seriously, which is FINE. Just don't change your behavior at the same time.

Clinginess? Good thing to spot. Ask HER if you're starting to act clingy. She'll tell you.

Communication is a good idea... but it's ONLY been 3 months. You 12-24 months to be sure you know each well enough to call it a lifetime match. So, you have plenty of road ahead.

Enjoy the journey, don't speed, wear your seat belt, make her laugh, when you screw up, laugh with her at yourself. Enjoy the journey.

Don't speed.

[brkfstatiffs]

I definitely think you thinking and over analyzing it a bit much. Have you guys had the "talk" yet or talked at all about where you are? And your feelings etc? Maybe you feel the way you do because there hasn't been a confirmation yet of her being your girlfriend? If the feelings are mutual, I can almost promise you she is probably feeling the same way herself. When women's feelings become involved we like to know where we stand etc. I think if you guys talk about it, you will trust her more when she is out etc, and won't feel the need to cling. You cling, because you don't want her to run away. (Funny, because usually it is the woman being clingy). Trust her, and communicate. Also, 24 and 30 is not that bad at all. I was 22, when dating a 30 year old... I've always been a few years ahead of my age, most women are.

[brkfstatiffs]

p.s. I'm sure she misses you too... but space is good and it makes the heart grow fonder. :)

[lildaisy]

As a 29 year old, I can relate. But, as a female, I can relate too. Women want communication more than anything. We are very good at analizing situations and behaviors. She will be able to "feel and tell" if there is something wrong with you. My advise to you: talk to her. Get it out and open in the air. It will make you feel 10 times better and you'll be able to sleep better at night (I know you're probably up staring at the ceiling and tossing and turning). A girl respects you more if you bring subjects up, talk about them and work your way through. Shoot, maybe she's feeling the same way too or maybe she wants to talk to you about something too. TALK! You'll feel better!