[broken_arro]

Original story here :

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We broke up 3 months ago. Now it's been exactly 30 days of strict NC, however about once every week, I get a phone call from a private number and when I pick up they immediately hung up. One of them was at my home number (which I have only given to her), the other one was at my mobile two weeks ago and the last ones (3 in a row) were also at my mobile at 4.30 am!! (I only picked up one of them and, again, they hung up without responding)

It's something she used to do when she felt she wouldn't hear from me again. She said she did it "just to hear my voice".

I am pretty sure that she made some (if not all) of those calls, so I'm thinking of sending a simple IM message telling her, in a very friendly manner, to please stop making them.

I know it sounds like a bad idea, and people will ask what do I expect from such a break in NC, however, to be honest I don't expect anything at all. I won't mind if she doesn't answer and I will not be involved in ANY kind of conversation whatsoever, I am sure of that. I will just tell her what I want and log off.

Problem is, these calls make me somewhat happy because they show that she's still at least interested. I don't think I would take her back if she ever decided to come back, I'm healing pretty damn well (yes, still thinking of her, however the daily chest discomfort and the knot in my stomach are not there anymore), so perhaps it's my ego talking. I don't know... It's just an urge I have to just contact her. I'm stuck and confused...

[Romefalls19]

Or the calls are to make you still interested. Happening at 4:30 in the morning could be nothing more than drunk phone calls. Let her be childish and play these games, they will stop when you don't feed into them. I have a strict don't pick up unknown number policy, that's what voicemail is for

[broken_arro]

Heh, I honestly believe the last phone calls at 4.30am were the most unlikely to be her.

I didn't pick up the first time, I picked up the second one which came 2 minutes afterwards, heard music in the background but no reply for 10 sec, then they hung up, and immediately after 3 more minutes the third call came which I didn't pick up.

Why would she call 3 times at 4.30 in the morning (one would be enough to "hear my voice", she used to call only once in the past), especially since she knew that she would be the number one "suspect" in my eyes... Plus, she still is with the other guy.

On the other hand,who else could it be ? Damn, these mind games are silly and confusing.

Unfortunately I don't have the luxury to not pick up phones from private or unknown numbers because of my job.

[busterite]

I don't think you should send her a message telling her to stop making the calls, especially because you are not positive its her making the calls. You just need to ignore them and not let place much importance on them. At some point she will give up. Or if there is something she really wants to talk about she will call you and actually talk to you. Its been 1.5 months of NC for me and I still keep on getting calls and texts from her. I leave them unanswered though. Like in your case I know she is with the other guy so I really don't think there is anything for us to say anymore. My advice would be to go on by just ignoring everything she does.

[Romefalls19]

I was 99.9% sure my ex was driving by my house right after we first broke up. Could even swear I saw her in the truck driving by, and her friend had the same make and model. I was tempted to text her, but ultimately decided against it because it was a step back in my NC. You need to think about what is best for your healing and stop thinking with your heart

[broken_arro]

Weird and unexpected turn for everyone following my story...

Read here : https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...-245519-7.html