[sunshine8424]

Well my boyfriend lives in Hayward and I live in Orange County we have been dateing for 7 months.It's a long story but some how I got access to his picture mail.I saw he has pictures of a girl and I don't know what to do should I tell him or should I just keep quiet?I mean it hurts me that he gets pictures from other girls but they are just pictures.He calls me every day and I know he loves me I believe him because I fell the same way.He knows I have acess to his picture mail online and he is OK with it but he doesn't know that I check it he thinks I did it once and the was it.

[JBeaucaire]

Just ask him about it, and not in an accusatory way. Be a calm, caring, interested girlfriend. You don't NEED this guy to stay in your life. Once you realize that, you're able to engage these situations a lot less frantically.

Whatever happens needs to be OK, as long as it's honest. If he honestly is looking for/at/with other girls, you'll need to learn that and get ready to start the process of moving on, right? I mean, you're not going to discover some guy, any guy, is cheating or exploring and then have some way to talk him into not doing that anymore. You know that, right?

So, life is going to be what it is. Face it calmly and maturely.

Besides, in the end, if you two are going to end up apart because of this, why let him see you overly bugged by it, too? Don't reward him. By treating this calmly and with no overcrazy neediness, you win either way.

If nothing is going on, you two continue just fine and you haven't ruined anything with suspiciousness. And if something IS going on and you two are slowly breaking up, he gets to see you aren't that bothered by it all, which should hurt him a little on the way out.

[talaniman]

Talking calmly and quietly with him may answer your questions, or may hurt your feelings, but without communicating and expressing your concerns, insecurity, doubt, and assumptions will drive you crazy.

[dream101]

I agree... communication is the key! Don't let anything inside... because it will just hurt you and hurt your relationship in the long run!

[Ash123]

Just say, who were those pix I came across? Is she someone he dated?

See if he has to think about an answer or not...

Maybe there's a simple answer he can give you. If not, ask more... once you are comfortable you got all the info - leave it alone - or... leave him.

[happy_jester]

But they are just pictures.He calls me every day and I know he loves me I believe him because I fell the same way.

"sunshine8424" let me remind you what you wrote in your question:---

But they are just pictures.

Exactly,so why are you so concerned about them?

He calls me every day and I know he loves me I believe him because I fell the same way.

It's good to know that you both love each other as much :)

[sunshine8424]

Gosh thank you very much for your answers..