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    hiyaparis Posts: 18, Reputation: 2
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    Aug 17, 2008, 10:17 PM
    Best friend, rumors
    There is this girl whom used to be my best friend and now that I've chosen not to speak to her again she is spreading awful rumors about me thus resulting in the loss of all my friends but 8 people (not counting people whom go to a different school).

    I have asked for help from the school and my parents but nobody wants to do anything about it.

    I was wondering what I should do? Ignore her or take matters into my own hands.
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    Aug 17, 2008, 10:23 PM
    Ignore her and her stupid rumors, and show her that it doesn't bother you. Ignore her and anyone associated with her. Forget she ever existed.

    I, myself, had a "friend" like this. I started dating my current boyfriend and she told me that if I started choosing him over her that she would break us up. And she sure tried, horrible rumors. None worked though, because no one was stupid enough to fall for her BS.
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    Aug 17, 2008, 10:28 PM
    If you lost some friends over some rumors then they were really not your friends. True friends would already know that they were just rumors or at least come to you and ask you if it were true.

    Why did you stop speaking to her and what is this rumor about you? She maybe just hurt by something that transpired between you. Still doesn't make it right but could be some reasoning behind it.

    Maybe if you start speaking to her again she will stop the rumors.
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    Aug 17, 2008, 10:42 PM
    She had lied to me repeatedly and I was tired of it.

    They were various rumors about me to make people not like me like ex.

    I had supposedly said that one of my friends had slept with her ex while dating anonther guy.

    Just stupid stuff that and every one believed it.
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    Aug 17, 2008, 10:47 PM
    Then they are stupid as well, and you don't need them.
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    Aug 17, 2008, 10:52 PM
    Ignore her and her stupid rumors, and show her that it doesn't bother you. Ignore her and anyone associated with her. Forget she ever existed.
    Had to spread the rep, but I agree this is the best course of action, as any one who believes her, is not your friend any way, so who needs them, or her.

    Actually she has done you a favor by showing who your real friends are, so now you don't have to waste time with the rest.
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    Aug 17, 2008, 11:15 PM
    Yes that is true and has been the method since it started.

    But what I don't believe is why she would do that when we had such a good friend ship?

    And it made me mad because we were both being accepted and weren't just "o those two freaks " again.

    Now she is the accepted one and I'm the "freak"
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    Aug 17, 2008, 11:26 PM
    Sometimes people try to be elevated in the eyes of others by bringing you down. There are a bunch of those shallow, manipulative, jealous people in the world. Ignore them.
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    Aug 17, 2008, 11:39 PM
    The 8 friends that have stuck by you are your real friends. They should be your focus not her or the friends that dissed you.

    Ignore it if you can and ignore all of them. There really isn't a sure way to stop the talk but if it just started then it can die just as easily once she figures out that it isn't doing you any harm. And just remember that what comes around goes around.

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