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    yasminanwar Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 16, 2008, 02:05 AM
    I love a guy and he don't have the same feelings
    I knew this guy 12 month ago and I fall in love with him.. 1st I saw him I was attracted to him then we became close friends he started to care as if I am his girl friend which was weird he was treating me and he feels jealous all the time whenever I speak to guys and whenever I ignore him it was upsetting him so actually I didn't understand till he got a girlfriend and this girl was my friend and after this relation both of us disapeard and I stopped calling him or caring for almost 5 month then they broke up as this girl got engaged to another one.. and the guy fall apart as he was in love with her... then I called him once he was so happy and he told me you are a close friend to me and I don't want to lose you one more time... then we started to talk again and we started to go out but I didn't put any excpectations on this relation to turn into a relationship.. but he was doing things that was confusing.. sometimes he treats me as if I'm his girl friend again and that was giving me hope.. then I decided that I'm going to tell him about all my feelings because I've been hiding these feelings for 11 month.. when I told him about what I feel he really appreciated this but he told me I don't want to lose you one more time because every time I go into a relationship I lose those people I love but by being close friends its going to last forever and I don't want to lose you one more time.. I felt that he is afraid to go through a relationship again as he don't want to get hurt and he don't want to hurt anyone... so I told him that I'm just saying what I feel and I'm not waitting for anything inreturn.. and I decided to keep him as a friend and if we meant to be its going to be... and I told him to forget about all I said and ill do the same but from that moment he didn't call me and I called him once he didn't pick up... so did I lose him forever... what can I do ? Advice
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    Aug 19, 2008, 01:13 PM
    Respect his feelings and support your friend. He may or may not feel the way you want him to, but you can't "make" someone love you.
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    Aug 19, 2008, 04:22 PM
    Just give him some time to think things over.. Maybe he needs time to be alone right now. I mean a while ago, he broke up with his girlfriend, and you are telling him that you have feelings for him. Try to be close to him as a friend. And if you think that he is ignoring you then talk to him. Tell him that you are not there to be his girlfriend but you are there to be his friend. What I've learned so far in my life, is that if something is meant to happen, in the end it will be.

    Be patient.. good luck :)
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    Aug 20, 2008, 11:53 AM
    Give him space, and live your life.
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    Aug 20, 2008, 12:21 PM
    What you don't want is for him to be in a relationship with you when he's not ready for that & then have him bail later because he doesn't want to be tied down. Forcing the issue will not get you what you want, but seeing how things play out patiently might if it is meant to be.

    If he wants to be your friend, he will let you know which he still might. But it may be too hurtful to you to be just a friend & could keep you from being with someone to be the perfect partner to you now.

    It's just as important to be a good friend to yourself as it is to him, you know?

    Good luck!

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