[NumberGirl17]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over two years now. I bought a house and we moved in together a little over a year and half ago. Everything seemed wonderful until the end of 2007 and then something just happened. In November his father was diagnosed with a brain tumor. He had surgery in December and has been doing chemo/radiation ever since. At the start of the year my boyfriend also started working 50 hour work weeks and has continued to do so since his work is so under staffed. I have no doubts about his faithfulness to me but ever since the beginning of the year he has lost almost all sexual interest in me. I know that he looks at porn (what guy doesn't?), and I have tried to get him interested but nothing I do seems to work. I am a few years older than he is and I am nearing the big 3-0! I feel that being intimate with one another is an important part to any relationship but when I try to talk to him about it he just shuts down. I deeply love him and want to help him and our relationship get back on track. But what should I do?
We still talk a lot and go on trips and camping together. We still have a good time enjoying one another's company. We confide in one another about our personal issues (except this one). I just can't seem to grasp how to handle his loss in sexual interest. I am sexually frustrated as odd as that may sound. We are now only intimate about once a month. Please help! I would love to help us get past this...

[chakarnis]

Got to be honest. You know what the problem is so handle your business.

[cantbelieveit]

My mother passed away from a brain tumor it is a very stressful time and it is really hard to see your parent who loved you all your life drifting away. It is a very sad thing to see someone slowly lose all ability to care for them self. My mother had a sever tumor and did not even make it to get chemo/radiation therapy. Just stick by his side no matter how long it takes and eventually he will want to be intimate more. Between the work stress and the stress of a dying parent believe me that is the last thing on your mind. It's not that he doesn't care for you it is just an overwhelming time in his life I'm sure you can understand. It means so much to have someone you love stick by your side. You both hang in there.