[hannah_nicole]

Just curious what everyone's thoughts are for what is and what isn't acceptable as a fetish? I'm not asking what you're into just what you think is OK and what isn't for others. Lets get the ball rolling I will suggest some: bondage, crossdressing, diapers, feet, scat, watersports, bloodplay, animals, shoes, balloons, food, clothed sex, exhibitionism, swinging, group sex, young people, old people, gloryholes, creampies, threesomes, lingerie, anything else? Feel free to add..

[Ash123]

Hmmm... well, it's hard to argue with: enthusiastic unlimited sex, anywhere, anytime with mutual respect and lots of hormones, some nice lingerie or nothing, maybe a little role playing, and some porn when in the mood, the odd item from the fridge, and no hang-ups, especially about where and when bodily fluids go. After that, I think it becomes a little less sex --- and a little more therapy.

I may get some of flack for that - but you asked.

[Fr_Chuck]

Just curious what everyones thoughts are for what is and what isnt acceptable as a fetish? I'm not asking what you're into just what you think is ok and what isnt for others. Lets get the ball rolling I will suggest some: bondage, crossdressing, diapers, feet, scat, watersports, bloodplay, animals, shoes, balloons, food, clothed sex, exhibitionism, swinging, group sex, young people, old people, gloryholes, creampies, threesomes, lingerie, anything else? feel free to add..

Not even sure what some of those are, so I guess those are too far but then some of them between husband and wife not sure if they should be a problem.

[bushg]

Animals... anyone that engages in sexual activities with animals, well let me in a room with them alone and I can bet you they would not ever do that again... sick just plain sick and demented.
I say if it is consenting adults that has the brains to consent, I don't care what they do for each other or to each other but leave kids and animals out of it.

[Synnen]

If it is between consenting, human adults --then where's the issue?

Lines are defined by the people in the relationship. The only lines I draw are those that bring in non-consent, animals (who can not GIVE consent, or children (who do not know, really, what they are consenting TO).

Everything else should be between the people involved ONLY.

[smoothy]

How far is too far? When it excedes your partners willingness to participate or when it turns them off.

Adults set their own lines. And it won't be the same for any two couples.


And animals... well I just consider that to be sick. Or people under the age of consent for your area.

[Choux]

I have a caveat... participating in wild sex, upping the ante constantly, looking for kicks, abusing others, abusing yourself... all this has a *down side*, folks. :)

These are not activities without a personal downside.

[Synnen]

Choux,

Everything in life has a down side.

You just have to weigh whether, PERSONALLY, any activity in bed has more of an upside than a downside.

In other words--like with everything else in life--you have to determine whether the benefits are greater than any detriments.

[kp2171]

People can have fetishes and desires they don't act on, so having the fetish alone doesn't mean its wrong.

If I acted on every desire and impulse I had I wouldn't be happily married.

The only concern I have about more "extremes" in sex is tied to choux's comment... I like my hands around my partners neck or to have her hands "trapped" sometimes... but I don't need to keep escalating the action. I have several fetishes I love... all within legal lines and all not too overboard.

If the couple can't find balance, if one always reluctently bends to the whims of the other, it isn't healthy for the relationship, "right" or "wrong"...

So... there just a lot of room in the question about is it right or wrong... some of the extremes may not be "wrong", but they might not be "right" for a particular relationship.