[quiteunsure]

I just ran into ex. She was just walking with her friend . I walked by them after taking a corner.. she just came out of no where. Immediately stomach dropped. Smiled and said hey guys. Gave a look and kept walking. Was in bit of rush (at place of work) instantly second guessin myself. I slowed down stood and thought for second then started walking. She called my name and was coming up behind me . We walked and talked awkwardly stopped and chatted some more . I just played it cool even though wanted to tell her I missed her and wantewd to hug her. She told me she's been busier at work. Feeling bit lonely at home and not being too social (doin things herself more like bike rides and going to beach) after min or two I said I had to go.. I did.. then awkward goodby.. glancing back.. not knowing whether to hug.. she actually turned, stopped for sec then kept walking away.. (we dated 3 yurs.. she broke it off.. I tried to get back . Eventually things didn't change and I was going crazy so went nc last little while I wanted to tell her I missed her and wantewd to hug her.
Damn I was doing so good. Clearly I still have crazy feelins for her. What to do? Why she telling me about being lonely.. help please?

[talaniman]

You don't need help, or advice. Just go back to doing what you were doing, before you saw her that's all.

[JBeaucaire]

It's like an alcoholic who accidentally ate a piece of rum cake. Purely unintentional, have to get right back on the wagon and pick up where you left off. The meeting was incidental, try to make the effects minimal as well.

It doesn't matter why she said anything, life is ahead of you.

[quiteunsure]

Now she emailin me.. saying it was good/hard to run into me.. wondering recently when we would see esch other or talk again.. wanted to catych up.. I know she just being nice.. part of me wants to say never.. part wants to see her.. see where things go. But just don't want to get hurt or be hurtful to her.. I'm still confused.. I can't just be her friend...

[JBeaucaire]

But you can be a stranger. Just let her messages go unanswered and let your life continue on its way.

[Romefalls19]

You handled it great, continue doing what you're doing

[talaniman]

Don't let this distract you from your healing.

[brian1231]

I was in your shoes recently man. It will pass. Keep up the NC and keep up working on yourself.

[Spikeman]

Just a big smile and walk past her!

[quiteunsure]

Thanks for advice.. should have probably stayed NC.. but agreed to meet for coffee. We caught up and chatted for about hour or so.. was actually good time, cracked jokes, talked about work frustrations, etc, just like old times, she even mentioned that she ahsn't been able to talk to someone like this since I started NC. At the end just said goodbye.. and that was that.. never brought up any heavy stuff. I just have gone back to NC for last week or so, but just found out she calling my friend asking about me.. he deflected well and just gave me heads up. Again I'm bit torn.. I still have feelins for her... she knows this as well, but if she wanted to find out about me why not just contact me?. knowing full well my buddies would tell me straight away.. I know I should stay NC until she actually contacts me with something worth hearing, but all this stuff makes it tough.

[pinkcelly123]

Of course your still crazy about her of you wouldn't be reading into it as much.. she might miss you or she might miss the company I say don't do anything if she really wants to get talking to you she will find a way and get a hold of you don't sweat it but f you happen to see her again if you really want to know how she feels ask her if she misses you or the company just be bold its better then driving yourself crazy with what ifs but don't go looking for her

[quiteunsure]

Well, my friend called me the other day and said she called him again asking about me... I was tired of this second hand info, so just text her wanting to know if she wanted to talk... she took a couple days to reply saying she was really busy lately, and sure she'd like to meet up and said she'll be in touch. No prob, she can get a hold of me when she wants, but now just regrettin txtin her.. I don't get it, if she's curious/having weak day, etc, and wanting to find out how I'm doing, why blow my off when just I actually contact her, clearly she calling my friend knowing he'll tell me. I just don't get it.. Im heading on vacation for next week so hopefully can escape this bs for at least a while. Should I let her know I'm heading off, so she not wondering why I'm not getting back to her (I don't want to seem like playing games) or just forget about it?

[talaniman]

First have a talk with your friend, and tell him nicely to stop what he is doing. You have opened a can of worms, but you can be busy and unavailable as she is. Back to NC!!

[WhatN3XT]

As hard as it would be to consider, could she possibly have a thing for your friend? With you the common link? Also, you can change your VM,IM message to away while you are on your trip.