[greyaura]

ok so my boyfriend moved in last month and i guess most of my family dislikes him becuz hes not afraid to speak his mind and voice his opinion so i love him and i would leave my family for him but i love my family too and he dont want me to leave him or my family any advice?:confused:

You can't help who you love so your going to continue loving him. So be it. Who's dating him? You or your family? Doesn't matter if they like him or not. All that matters is that he makes you happy and he loves YOU!

[starbuck8]

You can't help who you love so your going to continue loving him. So be it. Whos dating him? You or your family? Doesn't matter if they like him or not. All that matters is that he makes you happy and he loves YOU!

Apparently you have not read through this thread have you?! I would suggest that you do that before giving such a general answer.

[Dreams of lies]

And what happens when the mom who wanted a baby at 16 suddenly at 18 or 21 says "Hey, I wanna go out and party like all my friends who don't have kids!" and then they pawn the child off on whoever while they go have fun because their friends are. Or they grow up (key word here) resenting the child they had at 16 because they 'felt deprived of their childhood' when it was their own fault because they wanted to have a child.

I don't have friends

[Dreams of lies]

You can't help who you love so your going to continue loving him. So be it. Whos dating him? You or your family? Doesn't matter if they like him or not. All that matters is that he makes you happy and he loves YOU!

Thank you so much :-)

[starbuck8]

Thank you so much :-)

I don't know why you wasted all of our "free" time, if you were going to get mad at everyone who gave you the "wrong" answer. You already had your mind made up, and you really weren't looking for advice. You were looking for someone to pat you on the head, and tell you that everything you're doing is just wonderful and peachy.

As far as not having any friends, maybe you should sit down and think about your part in that situation. Could it be that you don't give people the respect that they deserve, so they may not trust you enough to be your friend? Everyone deserves friends, including you, and I'm sorry that you don't have any. Could it be that you tell even complete strangers to pi$$ off?

You don't need to have a baby at your age, and give it a job right off the bat. His/her job would be to fulfill something in you, that you feel is missing. A baby shouldn't be born into this world with the expectations of fixing YOU! I would only hope that you would give that some thought, and work on yourself and your life first.

That was my last shot at this. I will move on to someone who honestly wants to hear and is appreciative of good solid advice. Good luck to you.

[Alty]

Starby, I agree 100%, will give you a greenie in a minute, after I speak my mind.

OP, grow up. I realize that at the age of 16 that will be hard to do, but, if you are honestly thinking of bringing a poor defenseless child into this world, then honey, you need to grow up. From what I've read, you still have a ways to go before that happens.

Okay, tough time, and you're going to hate this. You are neither mature enough, stable enough, or intelligent enough, to bring another life into this world. I wouldn't even trust you to babysit my kids, much less have one of your own.

I've read your other posts, do you really think that a baby should be born to a mother with as many problems as you? Who are you having a baby for? You, you, you, selfish, which is what I expect from a 16 year old, this is also why most 16 year olds don't make good parents.

Get your head out of the sand, and welcome to reality. Babies are forever, yes FOREVER, you need to clothe them, feed them, care for them, and love them. You may love them, but the other things are just as important. At the age of 16 you can't possibly provide what a child will need. This is your need, not a babies.

I was 28 when I had my first child, it's hard dear, and I had a wonderful stable marriage, income and allot of help, it's hard! Why are you so desperate to have a child?

Get a fish, if it lives for 5 years, then you should consider getting a dog. Wait until you are older to have a child.

Yup, I was harsh, why, because believe or not, I was once 16. I was trouble with a capital T, yes, I was, and I had to learn things the hard way. Do you really want to go down that road? There are things you can take back, things you can learn from, baby, that's forever. Think about it, I know that there is intelligence there, use it, you won't regret it.

I hope I get through, but, remembering 16, well I guess I'll look forward to your reddie, but maybe, just maybe, you'll listen and learn before it's too late.

Why did I do this, well, because I care, so think about that, read my post again, and try and understand.

I wish you luck.