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    bunny13 Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 5, 2008, 05:20 PM
    Im 15 he's 19 and has a kid
    This lad I'm with has a kid,but I knew about that, but now I no that he still is in close contact with the baby moma and think he still has feelings for her but I like him but think he's just confused at the miniute and its not my place to ask about what's going on between them , I can't tell him to stop seeing his kid n he has to see her when he does also mi mates thinks he likes me its just difficult becus of the other ties HELPPPP
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    Aug 5, 2008, 05:26 PM
    I think you should call off the relationship just to see where his head at and plus he got a kid you should just sit down and talk with him and tell him how you feel about him and if he feel the same p.s hope everything work out the way you want it to:) :)
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    Aug 5, 2008, 05:33 PM
    He's 19. You're 15.

    He's out of high school, potentially in college... you're in the middle of high school.

    Without me going into detail further...

    ... don't get into this mess. You're too young (I know kids hate it when people say that... but... I mean it) to get into a relationship with someone that much older, not to mention, that has a kid. You're a kid yourself... and you're willing to be a mother figure to a kid?

    Find someone your own age... and let him find someone his own age... your life will thank you.
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    Aug 5, 2008, 05:44 PM
    The age thing does bother me, yes... but more than that, the idea that he has a kid bothers me more. Right now, you should be focusing on school (I know, another "grown up" comment... but trust me, I'm 22... not that much older than this guy), and overall enjoying your teen years. You dating this guy will rocket you into a "not so teenage" level. You say that you'll stay out of the "motherly" area... but, does that mean you won't ever see this kid?

    What I'm also pondering is... what's a 19 year old wanting to do with a 15 year old? Again, not saying that you're not pretty, or not fun to be with, or not mature enough... but the idea behind it.
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    Aug 5, 2008, 09:29 PM
    Its just not the fact he is an adult messing with a teenager, he has adult obligations, that you can't handle. Please stick with your own age, and enjoy your teen years, because they will never come back!!
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    Aug 6, 2008, 05:30 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by bunny13
    this lad im with has a kid,but i knew about that[, but now i no that he still is in close contact with the baby moma and think he still has feelings for her but i like him but think hes just confused at the miniute and its not my place to ask about whats going on between them , i can't tell him to stop seeing his kid n he has to see her wen he does also mi mates thinks he likes me its just difficult becus of the other ties HELPPPP
    1. He has a kid, you're still a kid, not sure how you see this working out.

    2. He is considered an adult, which means he can be arrested and charged as a sexual predator(which he should)

    3. No sh!t he is still in close contact with the baby's mother, he has a BABY with her! It's not something you can simply push aside. It is a huge responsibility on his part and obviously is going to be around his baby's mother.

    4. No you can't tell him to stop seeing his kid, not even one bit.

    5. YOU'RE STILL A KID and aren't ready for this type of commitment. End it and find someone that is legal to date

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