[WGY373]

We've been together for almost a year. So he took me around the country to meet his family, and extended family, they were all super nice and they all loved me as well, so that made me happy. And then another weekend we went to Texas for one of his friend's weddings and I met all of his high school friends. Oh and he told his grandma, aunts, uncles cousins mom dad brother and sister that he was going to marry me.

A few weeks later, I was frustrated with him and went home for a weekend, and he didn't call until Sunday.

And when he called he was really aggressive and mean and said I was acting like a 9 year old child, so then I was frustrated and said that maybe we shouldn't be together and he said outstanding. So then he picked me up and drove me to my apartment, and I thought we were going to work things out, but he said he didn't think he could do this because we want different things and think different ways.

It's pretty much because I've said that I want a big house to decorate with a library, and I want to go on vacations, and he wants a small house, doesn't want to go on vacation, and feels he would be miserable forever if he compromised with me.

So then I was really upset, because I love him and I want to be with him ,and all he keeps saying is "I'm sorry I'm not at your level, i'm sorry I don't feel the way you do", and my personal favorite " I know I'm supposed to be the man and fight for you, but I don't think I want to". What a sweetheart. So then I was super upset and hysterical, which was probably the wrong way to be. I called the day after and sent him two texts and he ignored me all day until he was about to go out with his friends, and then called to say he was really busy and hasn't changed his mind.

So then I sent him an email, and he promised he would call when he got home, but he didn't call for 24 hours, so I ignored his call. He left a voicemail and said he drank too much to call me (but not too much to drive home) and that he was on his way to go drinking again. And then he called me once yesterday, but no voicemail and I didn't answer.

I feel like if he had something good to say to me he wouldn't call once and forget about it, he doesn't want to try, he doesn't want to compromise, and I think that's what hurts the most. He was going to propose before the year was up, and I just don't understand how you could change your mind like that. And he's so final about everything. We would spend a lot of time together, almost every day and almost every night, so maybe he felt claustrophobic, but I wish he would have just said I need some space versus this will never work because I can't give you what you want.

So we haven't spoken in about a week, and I'm about to go donate all the things he left at my house, but I keep hoping he'll call or come over and apologize and we'll work things out... does anyone think he'll come back? Should I wait?

[Chery]

I'm going to wait to see what others have to say in this. But, if you read this from a friend of your's and knew both people involved, what would you suggest?

The future 'homes' you both envision are pretty big issues, so what 'major' things in life did you two have in common? It would really interest me to know more.

Hang in there dear, we are here with you - nothing happens over-night.

[TRUCKDRIVER0406]

I'm just curious... how old are you guys?

Maybe the trip back to the high school friend's wedding has made him nostalgic for acting like a carefree high school boy.

I think you should return his things to him.(don't donate them, they belong to him)and I would TRY to get on with your own life. Yes, it will hurt, and you will have to lean on you friends. He may even come to his senses and realize he messed up a good thing with you.. BUT, if he does, it will be up to you if you are willing to take him back.
Who knows you might accidentally find someone new with similar dreams that treats you better.

Hang in there

[WGY373]

I'm 21 and he's 24, we both want to adopt children, we like outdoor activities, but also dressing up and going out, we both want to settle on the West coast, Seattle area, we're both very artistic, he wanted to build a lot of his own furniture and I want to decorate with my own artwork. We get along really well with the other's family, we volunteer together...

I just think there's compromise in every relationship and he's not willing to do that right now.

[liz28]

You keep saying your waiting for him to call and then when he do you don't answer because you want him to do what call back to back. Will that show you that he cares no? If you want to speak to him then answer the phone and stop playing childish games.

I think you react to things instead of just taking a step back and think about what you do or your reactions to things. Some things you said in your posts were childish but you live and you learn.

Maybe your both need a minute to clear your head to see if this is where your want to be but he seems firm in his decision that he no longe wants to be with you or it could be out of anger but you won't know unless you talk to see where his head is at. Otherwise, you need to start healing yourself and get prepare to move on.

[happy_jester]

I keep hoping he'll call or come over and apologize and we'll work things out

"WGY373" I really can't understand why,as I've quoted you saying,above,that you
Want him back in your life,when clearly he has NO interest in this relationship!

So we haven't spoken in about a week

You were planning on marriage,yet you haven't spoken in about a week! :eek:
All the evidence shows that he's not interested in trying to make this relationship work
[& along with the no compromise :( ] if you still want a boyfriend,you'll have to look somewhere else. :(

[ylaira]

Cold feet...