[Kevin_s]

Someone should go to my school..... :mad:


...I'm not kidding:p

Move to Cali =) hahaha!

[pol5019]

OK so here's an update

My best friend of 4 years, who has bailed on me to hang with my ex instead of me, is having a going away party in 2 weeks. He told me he wants me to be there. All of the ex friends, including my ex will probably be there. What frustrates me is he has not even made the slightest attempt to hang with me this whole summer since the breakup. So there is a bitter taste in my mouth because of that. So my dilemma is if I go, I risk having no one to talk to, or I don't go at all, and pretty much throw any chance of me and my bud being friends out the window. I know he hasn't been the friend he should be this summer, but I think I would still love to be friends with him. So I really have no clue what to do.

Then my other friend, who is in the same group as the ex friends is having a going away party that same weekend. She hasn't made an attempt to hang out with me, but she has stayed in contact with me since the breakup. Same deal, all of the ex friends, including my ex will probably be there. Do I go to this one?

I feel if I don't go to either of these parties, it will drill the final nail in the coffin. I think if I don't attend, they will never talk to me again, which would definitely bug me out.

So I definitely need some advice on these parties! There in two weeks so we have plenty of time to discuss and debate=]

[jiltedgirl]

one thing I loved about college was...you can be a completely @sshole (and I mean @sshole in the nicest sense. Such as...not dealing with a girl's drama. If you don't feel like dealing with it, you can simply walk away) because by the next day, you can meet someone else.

Word. Freedom at its best. Best of all, it's mutually understood, if not expected. I'm going to reeeaaally miss that when I graduate next year.

[talaniman]

POL-Make them both and treat everyone well AND have a blast, to hell with the politics, leave a good impression on those folks.

Warning-
Disregard advice, if you aren't the party animal I was. Takes more than a few sad suckers, to slow my roll. And I do mean all night long.

[pol5019]

So you think I should go to the party? Even though they have treated me terrible this summer, and haven't included me in any plans this summer?

And yeah I'm quite the party animal so I don't know what to do.

[ISneezeFunny]

Just go, enjoy yourself, don't make this about them. Meet new people, mingle, etc.

Say hi to them, don't ignore them, but don't make them the focus of your attention.

[pol5019]

OK then I guess I will go, I've been talking to my mom and she thinks it's a real bad idea to go, but she will support my descion

[ISneezeFunny]

I feel that your mom doesn't want you to be in an uncomfortable spot. If you don't want to go at all, then don't go to show your friends up. Go if you want just to have fun, etc.

Best.

[pol5019]

That is true, I do want to go, cause in a way it will be a final good bye to all of these people for a while. After the parties, about 7 days later I leave for school so maybe I should go to say my final goodbyes.

And I was thinking about writing my ex a letter. Not too sure why, but I woke up this morning and it felt like I needed to do it. It is probably a bad idea. Like I said I don't even know what I would write in this letter, so I don't know what to do. Should I go with my gut? Even if I have no idea what it is telling me?

[ISneezeFunny]

Ah, the writing of the letter... very therapeutic may I add (and I don't even believe in therapy)...

There's a thread called "letters to our exes". It's a place where people wrote their letters to their exes... but never sent it.

I feel that writing the letter will help you organize your thoughts and bring your feelings closer to the surface... make them more "real", so it's a good idea... however, most likely a bad idea to send it. What will you gain if you send her the letter?

[pol5019]

I think the only thing I would gain is the satisfaction of knowing she knows my thoughts and how I feel. If I don't receive anything back, I will by fine, I truly believe that. I would feel a lot better if I did send it than if I didn't

[pol5019]

so here's an update

last night me and a bunch of old friends went to NYC(I live on long island) and we went sake bombing all night. So I ended up hooking up with two girls over the night. Yeah I know I'm kind of a whore=]. But one girl, I met that night, then I hooked up with an old fling I had sophomore year. I'm kind of freaked out about it, cause she is a psycho girl, and that's the only reason why we didn't date in the past.

so should I feel ashamed about what I did last night? I'm kind of new to the random hookup life, so feel free to give me your honest opinion please!

[Kevin_s]

Ballin!

You're single, no holds bar bro!

[bigbird213]

If your not comfortable with it, then don't do it. If you are, there really isn't anything to be ashamed of I suppose... Its all in how you want to live your life and what your comfortable with... I wouldn't recommend sleeping with as many girls as possible.. but...

[pol5019]

I'm finally at peace with my world

I sent the letter. It took 45 different letters, but I made one that I thought was perfect. I put it in her mailbox and drove away. Less than an hour later she instant messaged me saying she got my letter. We talked for 30 min. about everything. At the end of the conversation, we both agreed that we weren't ready to be friends, but we were both at peace with each other.

I can't tell you how great I feel right now. I'm glad I sent the letter, it did everything I wanted it to do.

now do I hoop up with her best friend? Cause I have a date with her tonight. And it was my ex's idea for us to go out so I don't know if I should be going on this date

but I'm on cloud nine people. WOOO=]

[ISneezeFunny]

Pol! I'm happy for you!

... but I am a bit weirded out that your ex set you up with her best friend.

... what the heck is that about?

[pol5019]

Uh yeah we kind of hooked up tonight, and it was a little weird but what ever. And I really don't know what that is about, maybe she is trying to show me she has moved on and is OK with me dating others I don't know