[WhatN3XT]

I am confused about my relationship right now. I have posted on here a couple of months ago seeking help about my fiancé needing space, you all helped out so much that I am back for more.

My story. Been with my girl for almost 7 years. We live together and in May she told me that she needed space and moved to her sisters house. 2 days later she called crying and said that she missed me so much and could not live without me. She came back home and everything was great for about a month.

Lately my intuition started acting up on me. I question everything that she does now thinking she is going to take off again. I hate feeling like this, but her lack of attention and a lot of other things are driving me crazy. Examples, We are a very flirty couple, now she barely touches me. She wispers on the phone when talking to her family. We always give each other compliments, now they are rare. She seems distant to me. I want to confront her about this, but is it too late? I want to work this out, but I want her to want to work it out also.

I hope I'm just being paranoid, and something will change to make me stop feeling this way. But, damnit my intuition never fails me.

[plonak]

I think you need to talk to her.. your intuition is there to warn you of things, so I don't think you should ignore it.. yes, you may be a little paranoid because you don't want her to leave you, but as you were saying she is acting different, so your fears may be warranted..

Sit her down and talk to her.. you both need to work through this before you go through with the wedding.. something seems to be going on and you need to get to the bottom of it.. communication is 100% imparative for a relationship to work.. good luck

[N0help4u]

It sounds like a little of both intuition and paranoid.
Once you have a rocky relationship where she leaves you are going to be paranoid and unsettled about things going back to 'normal'
You feel she is being more sneaky and less attentive and not putting the effort into the relationship that she once did and should be doing and acting more secretive... that most likely is more intuitive than paranoid. I would sort out what is actual fact from what you suspect and do not accuse her or talk down to her about it. Just have a nice ''now that we are back together what can WE do to make it work so we do not fail again'' talk.

[WhatN3XT]

Thanks for the advice so far. I guess "the talk" needs to happen. I was hoping to avoid this due to the fact I'm afraid of the outcome. But, for my own sanity I need to have it.

[Romefalls19]

Communication is the key to any relationship, without it, it will surely crumble

[KissMe10der]

I agree. You need to talk it out with her.. 7 years is a very long time to just throw it away. How do you know she isn't weary too? If you don't ask what is wrong.. and you just let it continue.. You won't be happy and it could get worse.

[talaniman]

Relationships grow and change all the time, and you have to pay attention and adjust, just to keep up with the way things are. You can't let fear dictate what you know you must do, and just buckle down, and do what must be done, make sure you know how she feels, and she knows how you feel, and figure out how to work together. Common after this long, you should have more than a hunch.