[cowandchicken]

It seems like most girls are losing their virginity as early as 13 yrs old. There no longer is a need to wait until marriage. Why do they no longer care?

[George_1950]

Perhaps we should ask their mothers.

[KissMe10der]

Some girls feel sex gives them a sense of love... it depends on how they grew up.

[rockerchick_682]

The pressure to be like everyone else often over-rides morals. I have heard from a lot of girls that they like the attention.

There are still plenty of girls that are waiting.

[Clough]

Not trying to be judgmental here, but the kind of outlook that girls no longer wait before having sex is like can't see the forest because of the trees directly in front of a person. Lots of girls still wait. Depends upon upbringing, education, culture, etc.

In some cultures, a girl wouldn't dare to have sex before being married because it would be so socially taboo because of tradition and societal/culture constraints. In such cultures, the girl might lose the chance to have a good partner for life if she were to have sex before being married.

Also depends on where a person is making that kind of observation based upon what they can see.

Just my thoughts on this...

[Synnen]

Media, society, lack of parental involvement, American culture--there are too many interlinked reasons, not ONE big reason. Don't you think that if there were ONE reason that people would have figured it out and put a stop to it?

But why focus on girls only? Boys are starting that young or younger too! Is this a double standard on your part, that you only care that it's girls losing virginity that young?

[smoothy]

Like Synnen said... but the biggest reason of them is lack of parental control. Many parents just let kids do as they please and not make them behave in a manner that is both moral and appropriate. When I was growing up if you disobeyed your parents there was hell to pay... these days kids threaten to call the authorities if the parents try to discipline their own kids... and the authorities side with the kids.

It's a miricle the problem isn't worse than it is. Public schools have become indocrination centers... not places of learning and everyone fights against parents rights to raise kids the way they see fit, to the level of morality they were raised to.

[N0help4u]

Besides everything everybody else has said sex has gotten to be something that is a common thing with no moral or value that has a higher standard.
And also
Many pre teens idealize having a baby and they want the cute boy and they have the live for the minute attitude giving no regard to the future or the consequences and the 'what if's' or the 'what abouts'.

[Choux]

There is severe social pressure on teenage girls to have boyfriends and a sexy reputation.

[Always_helping]

It seems like most girls are losing their virginity as early as 13 yrs old. There no longer is a need to wait untill marriage. Why do they no longer care?

Specifically: Why don't *American* girls "wait longer to lose their virginity"?

As most responders posited: It has do with culture, society, and value systems.

I believe that, sadly, children in our society (USA) are *constantly* being attacked by the media, culture, and society to become sexually promiscuous from an early age.

American society is literally fascinated by youth. Anyone else notice this? Or am I off base?

Peace.

[DuBas07]

Specifically: Why don't *American* girls "wait longer to lose their virginity"?

As most responders posited: It has do with culture, society, and value systems.

I believe that, sadly, children in our society (USA) are *constantly* being attacked by the media, culture, and society to become sexually promiscuous from an early age.

American society is literally facinated by youth. Anyone else notice this? Or am I off base?

Peace.

Um... plenty of other countries have kids having sex. Its not just an american thing. Probably nothing has changed about common ages of kids having sex anyway. My dad lost his at 14 my grandfather lost his at 12 and I lost mine at 17. All the other older people Ive talked to openly about sex all say similar ages. Maybe middle to upperclass white america is having sex younger... I would bet statistically nothing has changed except the openness about it.

[Always_helping]

Um...plenty of other countries have kids having sex. Its not just an american thing. probably nothing has changed about common ages of kids having sex anyways. My dad lost his at 14 my grandfather lost his at 12 and I lost mine at 17. All the other older people Ive talked to openly about sex all say similar ages. Maybe middle to upperclass white america is having sex younger....I would bet statistically nothing has changed except the openness about it.

I certainly I am not denying that underage sex occurs in other countries.

Perhaps I was thinking of the fact that the USA has such a very high teen pregnancy rate compared to other developed countries. This fact bothers me a lot.

Another point to ponder: I wonder at what age the people who didn't talk to you openly about sex lost their virginity... just a thought

Peace.

[Synnen]

I certainly I am not denying that underage sex occurs in other countries.

Perhaps I was thinking of the fact that the USA has such a very high teen pregnancy rate compared to other developed countries. This fact bothers me a lot..

The US is ALSO the only first world country that preaches abstinence while showing TV shows about unmarried couples living together. Parents freak about kids learning anything about sex from teachers, yet refuse (or are too embarrassed) to talk to their kids themselves.

The media pushes sexy--for god's sake, look at the models girls have for it! Hannah Montanna, Britney Spears, Paris Hilton... they all dress and act older than they need to, and Britney and Hannah both made vows to stay virgins until they're married. Look where that got Britney!

The US sells sex on every movie screen, every TV commercial, and too many TV shows. I mean, when's the last time you saw an ugly person in unflattering clothing trying to sell something? And yet, too many people are absolute prudes about sex--teens shouldn't think about it, talk about it, wonder about it, or try it out! NO NO NO NO NO is all they hear. Well, when's the last time "Because I said so!" worked on a kid over 12?

Stop pushing abstinence, start pushing education,and for god's sake, stop handing out Welfare to every stupid kid that gets knocked up because they thought it couldn't happen to them. If they had no fallback system, I guarantee you that they would be a lot more careful about sex.

[Synnen]

Again... I find it interesting that this focuses on GIRLS losing their virginity younger.

Does everyone feel that boys have ALWAYS been having sex at 12 and 13 too or something?

[greeneyedbaby]

Perhaps we should ask their mothers.

I think that you can ask your mother but if you were to ask mine she'd tell you I was a 20 year old virgin and she'd be wrong. I lost my virginity when I was 15 years old and haven't regretted it once. I think that sex is just that sex. It when your in love that the act of making love happens. Sex is a fun and pleasurable way to burn calories (lol) and show affection that feels good. Back in the day sex was held on this peadistool and was treated like a sacred object. But now its looked at as a common daily factor. Which seems to be OK by the people in society today

[smoothy]

If children abstained from having sex you wouldn't have insane ammounts of teens with STD's Like HPV. Or Aids, or anything else.

If children abstained then just maybe they would focus on school and then more would graduate.

If children did what they were told to do or had hell to pay like my generation did for the most part you would have better educated children and higher moral standards.

And yes I'm an old fart at 47 so yeah I saw everything turn to crap as a result of Political Correctness which blamed everyhing else for the problem rather than the person who's fault it really was.

[talaniman]

This is a no brainer, Lack of discipline because there are no parents, teachers, and role models, around to tell these brats NO, and be there to enforce it. Adults use to work together, and now they could care less about the people next door. What do you expect when kids are raising themselves, without Good Orderly Direction?

[DuBas07]

I checked around the net quickly and came up with 5 or 6 different studies, I was trying to get two done the same year but couldn't. I DID NOT SOURCE ANY OF THESE. The only one I give a smidgen of creditbility before sourcing is the unicef one. I suspect through my own logic these numbers could be skewed, like the rape statistics for the same reasons.
1998 NationMaster - Teenage pregnancy (per capita) (most recent) by country

2001 Differences in Teenage Pregnancy Rates Among Five Developed Countries: The Roles of Sexual Activity and Contraceptive Use

2002 Differences in Teenage Pregnancy Rates Among Five Developed Countries: The Role of Sexual Activity and Contraceptive Use - The Body

Teen Pregnancy Rates Worldwide Declining

With out sourcing this I basically equate it to someone on the street that I don't know telling me this.

[N0help4u]

Sex at a young age is wrong in some countries but if you look at the legal age of countries it is as low as 12-15 in many countries.
Age of Consent Worldwide

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

Hello Always_Helping,

My mother and father gave me the birds and the bees talk when I was in 4th grade or 9-10years old. I remember them reading me a book. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18. Go figure.