[Jessica27]

I need help badly, I'm in love with my co-worker and we have been messing around for a year and he is married with 4 kids, the other day he told me that he didn't want to continue because he is afraid we are going to get caught. Which I understand but why did it have to happen to me I have never in my life felt this way and I'm really hurt and I told him I don't want to be friends because my feelings are hurt. Please give me some advice so I can get over all of this. I'm a Single mother of 2 childern and they are my life. There daddy comes about every 2 weeks but I don't have the same feelings with him like I do my coworker?

[Jessica27]

I need help badly, I'm in love with my co-worker and we have been messing around for a year and he is married with 4 kids, the other day he told me that he didn't want to continue because he is afraid we are going to get caught. Which I understand but why did it have to happen to me I have never in my life felt this way and I'm really hurt and I told him I don't want to be friends because my feelings are hurt. Please give me some advice so I can get over all of this. I'm a Single mother of 2 childern and they are my life. There daddy comes about every 2 weeks but I don't have the same feelings with him like I do my coworker?

[N0help4u]

You play with fire you get burnt so why did this happen to you? You played with fire.
It is never a good idea to get involved with married men or co-workers so that is two strikes right there. Now you have to accept he is married and choose to keep his marriage. Now you have to see him everyday at work and be reminded and yet restrain yourself.
Work + married = double trouble!
What can you do? All you can do is try and hold your head up and move on.

[talaniman]

What do you want to hear:
The sugar coated version of how to change what your doing?
STOP HAVING SEX WITH HIM!
The unabridged version of how to change what your doing?
STOP HAVING SEX WITH HIM!!
The harsh no holds barred version of how to change what your doing?
STOP HAVING SEX WITH HIM!!!
Let me know, as your not the only divorced female that wanted nothing but good sex from a guy who was unavailable, and therefore SAFE. Every time he pulls away your losing what you want and go into a panic attack, because that's what you really want. Its like safe sex to you. I understand!! So tell me what you really want, you don't want to stop seeing him do you??

Be honest, so I don't waste my empathy.

[tolerance]

Women who date married men often say, "You can't help who you fall in love with." Maybe so, but you don't have to act on your feelings if you know he's married. Getting involved with a married man is really weaving a tangled web. You should not have got involved with him because:
1)He's married. Duh!He's got a wife. Isn't that reason enough? It should be but for some it is not.
2)He has children.
3)Two is a couple. Three is a crowd.
What makes you think he's going to leave his wife anyway? He may tell you he's going to leave his wife but it doesn't mean he will. Does he make an excuse or avoid the question every time you ask him about it? You could be the third wheel indefinitely. Is that what you really want?
4)Cheaters cheat.Assuming he was going leave his wife for you there's always the chance that he may cheat on you too.
5)You don't have a conscience. Did that little voice in your head tell you it is the wrong thing to do,I guess not. That little voice is your conscience.

On a side note I hate to hear that women sleeping with married men. Your both was wrong but you could have said no. Where I work your both could have get dismiss. What about your kids father, you had relations with him too every two weeks? To a married man your nothing more than a lay.

[Romefalls19]

You have learned a valuable lesson, don't have a relationship with a married man and don't get involved with someone at work... Both will result in horrible things!