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    tolerance Posts: 78, Reputation: 11
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    #81

    Jul 31, 2008, 12:18 PM
    Romefalls, keep your future daughter away from the computer and monitor that because that's where all the weirdo are.

    To kissme, so what I was off but the fact remains he's still older than you by 10 years. Which is fine because you're an adult. Also, after reading your post I'm unsure if you made the rig decision by moving miles away to live with someone you just met after 5 months of knowing them online, but it's your life and we all live our own life and make our own decisions. Hope it all works out.
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    #82

    Jul 31, 2008, 12:20 PM
    Well if he wants to post here he needs to give sound advice. Telling people they can have sex no limits just wear condoms so you don't get pregnant or STD's just doesn't cut it when the OP ends up pregnant and in legal trouble.
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    #83

    Jul 31, 2008, 12:20 PM
    Tolerance, ha ha.. I'm an IT Manager... Monitoring the computer is what I get paid for.. No worries on that front :-) Thanks though
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    #84

    Jul 31, 2008, 12:22 PM
    My boyfriend is an IT and I'm a ex cop, so our daughter have a lot to worry about.
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    #85

    Jul 31, 2008, 12:23 PM
    I met him a few times before coming here. If I didn't think things would beable to work. Heck no I wouldn't have come. When your talking to someone till 4am every night and have to go to work in two hours. I think its worth a try.

    Im young enough if this doesn't work out that I can start over. Im not afraid.

    Yes it is my life. But understand, I have experienced some of the worst things in life. I can read men better then ever with being raped, assaulted, threatened, stolen from, cheated on, slapped, mentally abused... etc.

    I know what's right for me, and currently this is right for me. But thanks, I hope it works out too.
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    #86

    Jul 31, 2008, 12:25 PM
    Kissme, I really hope it does work out for you, and I'm glad to read that if it doesn't you know it's not the end of the world

    Tolerance, you have it ALL under control! That is a great set up, you daughters first date shall be entertaining *grabs popcorn* I'm on my way
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    #87

    Jul 31, 2008, 12:26 PM
    Rabbit, thank you for clarifying that considering she is still underage and illegal:-)
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    #88

    Jul 31, 2008, 12:36 PM
    Yes they just did that within the past year or so.
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    #89

    Jul 31, 2008, 12:36 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Romefalls19
    Tolerance, you have it ALL under control! That is a great set up, you daughters first date shall be entertaining *grabs popcorn* I'm on my way
    It weird because my boyfriend always have thought about ways to make the guy disappear and some scare tactics. I think supervised is best but he thinks his way is best. I don't even want her to date anymore. Our daughter will soon be 8 but he wants her to dress almost like a boy. I have to fight with him to let her wear a shirt. Also, he already have a dress code for her too.
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    Jul 31, 2008, 12:39 PM
    That's funny, about the dress code. My girlfriend and I, discussed that as well... I had to compromise(I wanted parkas) but reasonable clothes are okay, but none of that hoochie crap!
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    #91

    Aug 6, 2008, 08:39 PM
    Well I'm 17 soon to 18 as well and
    My I'm dating a 20 yr old and
    I think if you girls like each other
    Well follow your heart..

    In love now and engagged it was worth it..
    :D
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    #92

    Aug 6, 2008, 09:06 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by HUNNiE
    well im 17 soon to 18 as well and
    my im dating a 20 yr old and
    i think if you girls like eachother
    well follow your heart..

    in love now and engagged it was worth it..
    :D
    If you want to do something illegal that's up to you, but please do not advise others to do so, that's bad advice.

    Sometimes following your heart leads you straight to jail, it's not always worth it.
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    #93

    Aug 6, 2008, 09:14 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by HUNNiE
    well im 17 soon to 18 as well and
    my im dating a 20 yr old and
    i think if you girls like eachother
    well follow your heart..

    in love now and engagged it was worth it..
    :D
    The difference between the ages is what the point is here! Have you bothered to read through all of the posts? There is a HUGE difference between a girl who has just turned 14, and a girl who is 17... huge! 18 and 20 is A lot different! Please don't give half-hearted advice, because you are in love, and think this is the best thing for everyone... no matter what age it is. Please think about the whole situation, and the consequences, and repercussions before answering in a flippant way. It is nice that you are "en-gagged", (:quote) and I am glad that you are happy.

    I wish you well, Hunnie!
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    #94

    Aug 8, 2008, 10:12 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by drummergirl6
    wel im a girl ive just turned 17 im gay an ive come out to my family an friends an i met this girl wel we kinda beeen flirting a little bit but she is 14 an i dunno if it is wrong to date a girl this young as of the maturity levels between us, i just wanted ur views thank you
    Yea I'm gay to so I know were coming from
    What's happening with you has already happened
    To me lol so if you would like I could tell you exacally
    How similar this is to my storey...
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    #95

    Aug 8, 2008, 10:20 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by HUNNiE
    Yea im gay to so i know were coming from
    whats happening with you has already happened
    to me lol so if you would like i could tell you exacally
    how similar this is to my storey...
    This has NOTHING to do with sexual orientation! This has to do with the age and maturity level! WHY, when the OP has already given her feedback, as to what she is going to do, are you still trying to encourage her to have a relationship with this underage child? :rolleyes:

    You are in a totally different age group!
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    Aug 10, 2008, 01:49 AM
    I know this sounds so cliché but love knows no age.
    I was asked out by a 17 and we dated for a month but she broke it off because of reasons and I say I hope you and that girl have a good time (even if you don't date). By the way I'm 13
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    #97

    Aug 10, 2008, 02:01 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by KissMe10der
    See in other posts, You guys say things like.. Oh that shouldn't matter, if you likes someone why let.. (Blah Blah Blah) effect whether or not you like someone.

    I personally dont feel that age is horrable. I have always dated older boys, but I was more mature... at 13 or 14.

    Age doesnt determine someone, it determines experiences. How can a Law be right for everyone? Dont take that out of context. Im talking about the age law. Even when someone is caught who was in a relationship with the younger person, they try not to post them on the sex offender list.

    I think if someone is in high school, and surrounded by boys or girls of all grades and ages. That it should be ok. How can you help feeling attracted to that person? You can't sit there and say.. "Well, we have everything in common.. but OH NO, we can't date cause your 2 or 3 years older then me. " Love comes in all packages, and I know there is always a possibility of a older man preying on a young female. But Im saying high school should be ok. Not a 21 year old dating a 14 year old.. Does that makes sence?


    I think your answer was almost perfect
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    #98

    Aug 10, 2008, 02:20 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Mrcuddlesworth
    i think ur answer was almost perfect
    Okay, let me first clarify that "dating" is fine in high school. In fact, one of the best times of my life! BUT!. it is irresponsible to give someone general advice, and especially when this is a situation which is not entirely accepted by all, and when at the age of 14, you may think you know your own sexuality, but you just may not.

    Sexuality comes with maturity, and hell, I thought I knew everything at 14 too! But the fact is, you just don't. You don't even know enough about life at that age. Trust me, I am not some prude that made good decisions! You can honestly trust me on that one! I also grew up to regret many of those decisions.

    I got married very young, and I thought I knew everything on the planet that there was to know! I also thought that people older than me were full of s*it! Now I know what they were talking about, and wish I would've listened a lot more than I did.

    Bottom line once again. 14 years old is much too young to make a serious decision about these things. Gaining experience is one thing, but taking advantage is another.
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    #99

    Aug 10, 2008, 02:25 AM
    Its only dating what's the worse thing that could happen omg
    And I don't think older people talk sh** I actually respect more older people than my peers but still,, My relationship was fine nothing bad happened.
    And another cliché
    LOVE KNOWS NO BOUNDRYS
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    #100

    Aug 10, 2008, 02:52 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Mrcuddlesworth
    its only dating whats the worse thing taht could happen omg
    and i dont think older people talk sh** i actually respect more older people than my peers but still,.,. my relationship was fine nothing bad happened.
    and another cliche
    LOVE KNOWS NO BOUNDRYS
    Ya, that's right, no boundrys, who cares if you go to jail for statatory rape, it's all in the name of love.

    Jeesh!

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