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grandmak · May 9, 2006, 10:27 AM

I have 3 grown children (his,mine & ours) mine was adopted as was his one family. But my ex in-laws have interfered from the beginning telling her I was a bad mother & she didn't have to listen to him , he wasn't her Daddy. She is 27 now and has a drug problem, bipolar ,on corrections, looks like jail time ( dirty ua's) and they have filed for guardianship of her little girl . They are in there late 70's they won't let me see my grand daughter. I have hired an att.
To try to stop them but the wait is breaking my heart. Ha anyone else been through this? Will the courts give a 17 month old to people of there age and didn't the adoption cut off there legal rights? (GOING CRAZY IN KANSAS)

tuddy · May 9, 2006, 03:01 PM

So sorry to hear about your trobles I lost my three grandchildren their parents were drug addicts the only reason we did not get them was because the parents would not leave us in peace I would not know legally how you stand but I would think that a younger couple would stand a better chance of having their granchild than an older one but as you might be aware we grandparents do not have many rights which is so sad hope all goes well for you and you sort it out peacfully:( :confused:

Fr_Chuck · May 9, 2006, 06:20 PM

First the adoptive father the child where ever he is has first rights to custody of the child normaly unless he has not taken care of his responsibility, so where is he, and what is he doing about custody. So where is he in all of this?

Next the courts have given older people custody, but they will normally review the health of the people to see if it is possible.

You have as must rights ( perhaps a little more as the grandmother of the custodian parent.

Have you looked into or talked to your attorney about having your daughter merely sign custody over to you, then the other grandparents would have to try and prove you not fit parents ( harder to due perhaps)

grandmak · May 10, 2006, 06:38 AM

The adoptive father is my husband he adopted my daughter and I adopted his son. Our daughter will not give us custody because we will not give her money to buy her out of her troubles we feel she needs to take responsibility for her actions but her bio grandparents buy her out of everything if she gives us custody they will cut off the money. I fear for Our daughter and gandaughter. The courts have always ruled in their favor.

grandmak · May 10, 2006, 06:43 AM

Where are my manors! Thank you so much for replying it is really nice just to have someone to talk to about this

fredg · May 10, 2006, 07:12 AM

Hi, grandmak,
I, too, am so sorry to read this.
I am so glad you will be talking with a lawyer. He/she really is the only one who can give you some good legal advice.
I also am sorry to read about your Daughter, cause drugs can, and is, ruining her life, as well as her daughters... something you already know.
I am a grandpa, and have wonderful children, being married now for 29 yrs. I am so glad they are not into anything like this.
You daughter's history with drugs and other info will be valuable to the lawyer, as well as the history of the older folks who want custody of the child.
I do wish you the best, and good luck. You have been through enough, and are a very special person to be willing to try doing this!