[Sunny16]

Hi everyone. I am having a real hard time dealing with my 2nd miscarriage. My first was in March at 5 weeks. Last week I had a D&C and was 8weeks. I saw the heart beat at 6 weeks and went for my 8 week checkup and no heart beat. I am completely devastated and can't stop crying. My husband and I have had some blood work done after the first miscarriage and they told me we were fine (including DNA testing). I don't understand what happened. I spotted and was bleeding (dark red) the entire time and was told that I had a lot of blood in my uterus but they did not know from what. My hcg levels were good which they were not for my first miscarriage. I am not sure if this blood in my uterus was from my previous miscarriage and if caused this one to happen. The Dr told me it looked like the sac was collapsing but a week later it looked OK. I had the D&C and was told that their was "a lot of old blood" in my uterus that they removed. They are going to run tests on the baby for abnormalities and want me to have an X-ray with dye on my uterus to test if my uterus is the problem. Has anyone had this done and what does it mean? Can I still have children if I have a problem with my uterus? Also does anyone have idea about what this blood in my uterus is from? I just keeping thinking that I will never be able to have a child and this breaks my heart since I want one but I also want to give one to my husband. I feel like what kind of wife am I that I can't even give my husband a child. I know I am feeling depressed but I am scared and angry and need answers to my questions like yesturday. PLease help and if anyone knows how it make the pain go away I am all ears. Thanks so much and sorry about the long posting.:(

[Diane Carol]

Sunny, I feel for you. But please, don't take any advice from any well-meaning but totally ignorant person who knows nothing of your health risks.
Even if another says she experienced the same thing, don't take anything that is offered as gospel, everyone... EVERYONE, is different.
Like they tell you to never take medicine that is prescribed for another person... even if they were or are, taking the same medication, are you to take it as though t were the same. It could be... it might not be.

Don't risk your internal physio for want of a quick answer.

Doctors go to school long years to learn of what's best for our insides. If one doesn't know the answer, then ask to see another... or go directly to a specialist.
It is your right to consult with a different doctor.

Good luck... and God bless.

[maria06]

Sunny,

DO NOT DESPAIR. Miscarriages sometomes just happen. They do not mean that there is anything wrong and also all your blood tests are normal so that is good. Usually just something wasn't right about the pregnancy. I have had a couple of miscarriages also and never thought that could happen to me as I am fit and healthy but I have a 2 year old girl and am now 35 weeks pregnaqnt with number 2. Several of my friends have had them too.

Allow yourself to grieve and let your body and soul recover and just try again. I am sure it will all be fine.

As for all this chat about the dye test etc it all seems a bit premature to me as your tubes are obviously OK as you have been pregnant twice now but maybe they can tell you and reassure you that all is OK.

GOOD LUCK.

Its hard but you do get over your losses.