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    shaybaby Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 24, 2008, 07:26 AM
    I'm married and he is married
    I have been married since I was 16 and I am now 19 I have a son that is 11 months old. I started working in a office and I have to see truck drives everyday. My husband is 24 and has never worked or anything. All this men hit on me well I fell for all the lies and I fell for him he is 34 and married with 3 kids he says he not happy but he doent want to lose everything he has. We have been together twice and I really care about him but I don't know what to do he says he want to end it here before any felling get involved but mine are all ready there I can't stop thinking about him he told me all the things I wanted to hear and I love just looking at him. Should I just give up and go are seperte ways I shouldn't have let it happen in the first place but I did now I'm stuck in a rock and a hard place
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    Jul 24, 2008, 07:30 AM
    You're better off going your separate ways, before you lose what you already have. If you're unhappy, speak with your husband, but think things through before putting your son through a rough divorce.
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    Jul 24, 2008, 07:34 AM
    It's about time you learned that all truckers are sweet talkers and should be taken with a grain of salt. How do you think they talk themselves out of expensive tickets by the DOT or the smokeys? Practice. They are good people, yes, but horny liars are the rule here. You're too vulnerable to be constantly hit on to resist their charms. I worked at 2 different trucking companies and got loads of dinner offers, gifts from drivers, etc. and happily resisted them all. Just keep smiling and think to yourself, gee, they sure think I'm pretty, but sorry I'm taken guys and you'll get along just fine with them. Try to think of yourself as their mother and you'll get by a lot better with them.
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    Jul 24, 2008, 07:35 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by shaybaby
    all this men hit on me well i fell for all the lies and i fell for him he is 34 and married with 3 kids

    he says he not happy but he doent want to lose everthing he has.
    we have been together twice and i really care about him but i dont know what to do
    he says he want to end it here before any felling get involved but mine are all ready there

    i can't stop thinking about him he told me all the things i wanted to hear and
    i love just looking at him.
    should i just give up and go are seperte ways
    i shouldn't have let it happen in the first place
    but i did now im stuck in a rock and a hard place
    Doesn't sound like much of a relationship to me. You are fantasizing over a married man and he doesn't want to go there any more.
    The only rock and hard place is your getting over your hurt and moving on.
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    Jul 24, 2008, 08:51 AM
    Your married and he's married, it sounds like he know he could get you because you gave him hope by responding to his flirting. Now he don't want to any more because he cares about his family.

    Be careful with truckers because they talk and don't be surpise if the word get around because they will hi five him while calling you names and some might try to to get in your pants.

    You will always be attracted to someone but must learn to control it and know that some people will tell you everything to get your goodies, don't fall for it again. Sweet talkers are every where.

    Question:How come your husband does not work and why did you marry so young?
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    Jul 24, 2008, 09:04 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by shaybaby
    [F] i have been married since i was 16 and i am now 19 i have a son that is 11 months old. i started working in a office and i have to see truck drives everyday. my husband is 24 and has never worked or anything. all this men hit on me well i fell for all the lies and i fell for him he is 34 and married with 3 kids he says he not happy but he doent want to lose everthing he has. we have been together twice and i really care about him but i dont know what to do he says he want to end it here before any felling get involved but mine are all ready there ... i shouldn't have let it happen in the first place but i did now im stuck in a rock and a hard place
    This is very saddening to read and I'm sorry for the mess, but here you are; and you are the only one who can get you out of it. In the first place, he is married, so you cannot expect or demand anything from him. Since you have become his port in a storm, you can expect his ship to reappear in your life. You need to be ready. You need to be able to say, "Port closed", to him and all others until you have dealt with your issues. You aren't available, either.
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    Jul 24, 2008, 09:28 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by liz28
    Your married and he's married, it sounds like he know he could get you because you gave him hope by responding to his flirting. Now he don't want to any more because he cares about his family.

    Be carefull with truckers because they talk and don't be surpise if the word get around because they will hi five him while calling you names and some might try to to get in your pants.

    You will always be attracted to someone but must learn to control it and know that some people will tell you everything to get your goodies, don't fall for it again. Sweet talkers are every where.

    Question:How come your husband does not work and why did you marry so young?

    My ex-stepdad didn't want me there so my mom gave me to choice get married or send me off until I turend 18 my husband make me support both of us I mean I make good money but it would be nice if he would help
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    Jul 24, 2008, 09:34 AM
    Well even if your marriage isn't what you want. You have to either put up with him, put a fire under his butt or divorce him.
    Married guys really aren't a good option whatsoever.

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