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JBeaucaire · Jul 23, 2008, 03:47 PM

"I don't mind being submissive" means you don't really understand what is going on here. A submissive is a person who CRAVES being dominated, cussed at, spanked, abused, put down, ordered around, the whole shebang. A submissive actually derives intense pleasure from this.

"I don't mind being submissive" means you aren't a submissive. It means you will be in deep trouble if you pursue this. If being called b1tch can make you cry, you have NO IDEA.

N0help4u · Jul 23, 2008, 03:52 PM

I just PM-ed her that she has no idea what she is getting herself into.

Submissive in the Bible means obeying Godly order
Submissive in this guys world means as JB said.

You do not want to end up feeling controlled, taken advantage of and degraded,

bearsowner · Jul 23, 2008, 04:09 PM

Like to start by saving you from harm and future pain. My first remark is actually for you... why do you feel you have to date a loser from the start. First email him NOW

bearsowner · Jul 23, 2008, 04:10 PM

Like to start by saving you from harm and future pain. My first remark is actually for you... why do you feel you have to date a loser from the start. First email him NOW and cancer for your safety. Secondly, look into why you are attracted to these losers even online and third focus on yourself until you can make a healthy list and pick someone worthy of you! Pick a gentleman and learn to love it.

liz28 · Jul 23, 2008, 04:13 PM

First, if you don't want someone who controlling then stop communicating with him.

Secondly, if he's in his 40's, then he's set in his ways. You look young so he most likely
Want to use you.

Thirdly, follow your guts because if he wants sex from you within hours of meeting you, and telling you before hand, why bother unless you want to as well. Never do something you don't want because you owe him nothing and your not in a relationship.

Maybe you need to get off the dating websites. I remember a post of yours about someone else from the web. I'm not sure what your saying in your profile but don't even do something you don't want. People are crazy and while some have luck for others its can't be dangerous. I know you might want someone but have you consider meeting someone the old fashion way or maybe something like speed dating, or a single gathering. If you want an internet site or you using sites that you've to pay for,i.e. eharmony. Whatever you do I hope you find someone but don't settle for anyone that belittle you or wants you to be their whore.

liz28 · Jul 23, 2008, 04:30 PM

Online dating, posted on June 17
I meet a guy on myspace and he told me I can come visit him in California whenever?
Should I go for it ? I know he has 1 picture on his page... Is there any safety steps I should take... I will be staying at his house and he will pay for my ticket thanks

This guy you only knew for 4 weeks so why keep meeting guys you feel uneasy about? Find someone that's wants you for you. Start by working on yourself to build your confidence and self-esteem. I understand there was a history of abuse by your father, that's hard, but don't let that set the stage for your relationships. Everyone wants someone and sometimes it takes a while to find someone but you'll. In the meantime, stay away from boys that want to disrespect you and use your body.

N0help4u · Jul 23, 2008, 08:45 PM

I agree drop the online losers and get out and meet decent real life people.
You don't seem to be having any luck with the internet ones.

hjpan · Jul 23, 2008, 08:49 PM

Originally Posted by JBeaucaire

No, he doesn't sound like a pedophile. Hjpan, you are continually freaky with your advice, but hey, speak your mind, lol.

Starcrush, clear out your Private Messages so I can respond to your private message.

Short skirt with no underwear beneath?

Sounds like a typical pedophile idea :O

erin7799 · Jul 23, 2008, 08:54 PM

I can't believe it's taking sooo much to talk you out of this date. It's SO clear! You ALREADY know what to do! Just do it! (Don't go)

N0help4u · Jul 23, 2008, 08:54 PM

Originally Posted by hjpan

Short skirt with no underwear beneath?

Sounds like a typical pedophile idea :O

You said that page 2 post #17
What makes you think that? I think she is over 18.

hjpan · Jul 23, 2008, 08:55 PM

I am going to speak my mind.

Nobody on AMHD to be responsible for your actions. Go ahead and get fuqed over with some 40 year old guy who can't get a decent wife. You might end up with a small scratch or couple bruises, broken bones, fractured joints etc. Guess what? No one on AMHD is going to be there when you need them the most. It's YOUR choice; YOU make the decision.

I have been through rough times... I've seen my friends from my high school who attempted suicide; I've seen my friends smuggle drugs around and distribute on school grounds; I've seen my friends who got attacked and beaten almost do death by strangers. Even though I'm young, I've seen and heard a lot. It's the real world... Nobody is going to protect you besides yourself. Nobody is going to help in me college except myself.. I can go to Teacher Assistants & the professor hours.. that's it~

So, you mention he's a martial arts instructor? Well, I'm pretty sure if you don't like his idea, you're going to be forced. By that time, it's too late.

I may sound mean, harsh, crazy, lunatic... but that does not mean I'm not a bad person.

hjpan · Jul 23, 2008, 08:56 PM

Originally Posted by N0help4u

You said that page 2 post #17
What makes you think that? I think she is over 18.

I didn't say the OP... it's a typical pedophile idea... probably after watching episodes of MSNBC: How to Catch a Predator

starcrush · Jul 24, 2008, 08:08 AM

Im 28

starcrush · Jul 24, 2008, 08:09 AM

Originally Posted by hjpan

I am going to speak my mind.

Nobody on AMHD to be responsible for your actions. Go ahead and get fuqed over with some 40 year old guy who can't get a decent wife. You might end up with a small scratch or couple bruises, broken bones, fractured joints etc. Guess what? No one on AMHD is going to be there when you need them the most. It's YOUR choice; YOU make the decision.

I have been through rough times... I've seen my friends from my high school who attempted suicide; I've seen my friends smuggle drugs around and distribute on school grounds; I've seen my friends who got attacked and beaten almost do death by strangers. Even though I'm young, I've seen and heard a lot. It's the real world... Nobody is going to protect you besides yourself. Nobody is going to help in me college except myself.. I can go to Teacher Assistants & the professor hours.. that's it~

So, you mention he's a martial arts instructor? Well, I'm pretty sure if you don't like his idea, you're going to be forced. By that time, it's too late.

I may sound mean, harsh, crazy, lunatic... but that does not mean I'm not a bad person.

I know hun that's what I'm afraid of

hjpan · Jul 24, 2008, 10:59 AM

Originally Posted by starcrush

I know hun thats what im afraid of

And you STILL WANT TO GO?

starcrush · Jul 24, 2008, 11:02 AM

No

N0help4u · Jul 24, 2008, 11:05 AM

Grab a girlfriend and go to a decent type bar and meet a good guy.
Find something to curb the urge.
He isn't the end all be all in guys and I know you can do better
Put your efforts in something/someone that is going to get you somewhere.
ALL I ever met all my life was losers and now I really don't have anything to show for it
Other than hardships.
People say "he never gave you anything''.
I say ''Yes he did, heartache and misery!".

hjpan · Jul 24, 2008, 11:07 AM

Originally Posted by starcrush

no

That's good then :)

starcrush · Jul 24, 2008, 11:36 AM

It just seem like I'm not going to find the right person :(

hjpan · Jul 24, 2008, 11:39 AM

Originally Posted by starcrush

It just seem like im not going to find the right person :(

Damn it... don't think like that!

That's the typical loner status. There are A LOT of good guys out there..

This online dude is NOT ONE OF THE GOOD GUYS