[talaniman]

Not your business. Leave it alone, she is a big girl.

[polkadotrainbow]

Harsh as what talaniman says may sound it is the best option... she needs to make her own mistakes... if she can constantly run to you for help then you can't really move on. You don't need to be mean to her but just keep being friendly... if she calls you then answer and listen but don't feel that you have to fix everything for her.

[hjpan]

Let her ruin her life. Majority of the relationships between a girl and a drug dealer ends up like trash

[pol5019]

Yeah that all makes sense. I think id rather not know what's happening in her life than know, cause when I find out info it obv bothers me. I just want to go to college already, cause then I can start fresh and make tons of new friends

[hjpan]

yeh that all makes sense. i think id rather not know whats happening in her life than know, cause wen i find out info it obv bothers me. i just wanna go to college already, cause then i can start fresh and make tons of new freinds

Good idea: STAY AWAY FROM THE GIRLS IN FRAT PARTIES

They're not clean D;... majority

[pol5019]

ahahah thanks for that hjpan that made my day =]

[hjpan]

ahahah thanks for that hjpan that made my day =]

I'm serious... D;

Just be careful with girls in college... they're big drama fans D:

[pol5019]

Even more drama than in high school?

Cause there was a lot!

[hjpan]

even more drama than in high school?

casue there was a lot!

Yes, there are a lot of girls who are dirty

[pol5019]

Its been 21 days of NC

My birthday is in 2 days, think she will call?

[hjpan]

its been 21 days of NC

my bday is in 2 days, think she will call?

I'll call xD

Hahaha~ who cares if she calls?

[pol5019]

I don't care, but I would think she would have enough decency in her to call. I mean we dated for a year, and its not like I did anything wrong, she's the one who broke up with me so I guess there should be no hard feelings on her part. If I were in her shoes I would call

[hjpan]

i dont care, but i would think she would have enough decency in her to call. i mean we dated for a year, and its not like i did anything wrong, shes the one who broke up with me so i guess there should be no hard feelings on her part. if i were in her shoes i would call

I don't know if I'm going to call my ex on her b-day... and the reciprocate.

[jiltedgirl]

Don't expect it. It'll just make it harder for her and for you.

Let go.

[pol5019]

Yeah but thee thing is it reli wasn't a messy breakup. It took one conversation, and we haven't reli talked since. Its been a month now. I assume we don't hate each other, and I still keep in contact with her family(her mother) cause I still love them a ton.

I have another grad party tonight, and she will be there, so hopefully I can avoid her at allll costs.

[Romefalls19]

It's over, she ended it. There is nothing you can do to change that, it was her choice. You obviously weren't what she wanted anymore, she made that apparent when she said she lost her love for you. Don't expect a call for your birthday, and even if she does, don't pick up. You guys might not hate each other, but you aren't together, you aren't friends. I can say that with confidence because friends can hear about their friends new lover or that one night stand that they shouldn't have had. Could you deal with her telling you that? I didn't think so, delete every way possible to get in touch with this girl and read the stickies at the top of this forum.

[bigbird213]

I agree with Rome...

My ex and I dated for 4 years and her birthday was about 2 months after our breakup. I didn't call her, and trust me it was hard, but I didn't do it. I felt guilty for a while, but she initiated the breakup and if she wants to get ahold of me, I'm sure she knows how.

[talaniman]

You expect her to undermine her healing to fulfill your expectations? I think its unreasonable to make such a small thing, into such a big thing. Let it go, if she does fine, if she doesn't still fine.

Why would you get your expectations so worked up??

[pol5019]

I'm not expecting a phone call. I am very curious to see if she does. I know it will not make or break my birthday at all.

And rome I agree with u, about not being able to hear about her new lover, if she had one, so I guess we reli aren't friends

But recently, all the friends me and her made during the time we dated, have been hanging out with her,and completely ignoring me. I reli don't care, cause I made some new friends but still, it's the point that I did nothing wrong, and I lose all my friends also? Obv not fair, but I know there is nothing I can do, and I can't control who my friends want to hang out with. To me it just reli sucks.

[Chery]

The only control you have is over how you cope with her calling or not... so decide on what you plan to do.. and stay with us, dear.

With me it was the other way around. After the break, my neighbors paid more attention to me than they did when I was with 'him'. He lives in the same building and they have also know him for a long time, but they show their support for me instead. And I have made new friends - never liked his to begin with (usually all drunks) - and he always objected to mine, so I kept them separate from my relationship. Good thing I did.

'His' B-day is up next month, and I certainly am not going to mention it, even though I see him every day.
Honest, after living as long as I have, and going through a few relationships, you'll get the hang of coping. You either wind up as friends later or it leaves you cold as ice towards the 'other' and life goes on.

Enjoy your B-day by going out and having a great time, or if you want, you can come on here and we'll have a Virtual Party - a lot of us will drop in during the entire time...

C.U. later.