[openpetal]

My husband told me he needs sex everyday and he cannot function without it. I've noticed just like he need his heineken and guinness stout too. His drinking is not too much a problem cause he holds his head well and he naturally holds a six pack with a muscular physique. I do things now to avoid having sex with him because there is no fun or foreplay involved. It feels like a chore to bring him to orgasm. I don't want him to cheat either. Prior to getting married, it was fun, exciting, challenging and addictive. The day we got married as soon as we got to his house he told me to jump on it like he just paid for me or bought my sex or married my sex. He instantly (conscious of it or not) made me feel like his sex servant. In the beginning, I was just as sexually active as he but now I need mental stimulation, expensive conversation and not feel objectified. I can't have sex if I am not aroused. I don't know how I arouse him unintentionally? I stopped doing oral sex cause he is too big and wants me to deep throat. He bores me with his quietness. I don't know when he comes no reaction. When I let out my sexy orgasmic sound, he kind of laughs. I think that is weird. Call me prude which I know I am not, I go with the mood. A great body and handsome face don't get my waters running so easily. Can u tell me what I should do? Give him sex whenever he wants it so he doesn't cheat on me? Sigh feels like a chore now... or change the way I think. Thank u for reading this.

Openpetal

[JudyKayTee]

My husband told me he needs sex everyday and he cannot function without it. I've noticed just like he need his heineken and guinness stout too. His drinking is not too much a problem cause he holds his head well and he naturally holds a six pack with a muscular physique. I do things now to avoid having sex with him because there is no fun or foreplay involved. It feels like a chore to bring him to orgasm. I don't want him to cheat either. Prior to getting married, it was fun, exciting, challenging and addictive. The day we got married as soon as we got to his house he told me to jump on it like he just paid for me or bought my sex or married my sex. He instantly (conscious of it or not) made me feel like his sex servant. In the beginning, I was just as sexually active as he but now I need mental stimulation, expensive conversation and not feel objectified. I can't have sex if I am not aroused. I don't know how I arouse him unintentionally? I don't do oral sex cause he is too big and wants me to deep throat. Call me prude which I know I am not, I go with the mood. A great body and handsome face don't get my waters running so easily. Can u tell me what I should do? Give him sex whenever he wants it so he doesn't cheat on me? Sigh feels like a chore now...or change the way I think. Thank u for reading this.

Openpetal

Maybe this should be combined with your other post because the problem is more complicated than this would indicate - ?

[NowWhat]

I would say communication is key.

You need to tell him how his actions are affecting you. He may not even realize what he is doing.

Women and men are totally different when it comes to sex (in my opinion).
My husband could come in from work in a bad mood and not really talk to me the entire evening. Once we are in the bedroom, he is ready for a good time. Well... It does not work that way for me. I am almost offended at the gesture. I had to get to a point of sitting down and telling him how I felt.
He understands where I am coming from now. If he wants his happy ending, he has to make me happy before the lights are turned out.

I think that if you can talk to him and make him understand where you are coming from, the sex will be better for you both.
If you are afraid he is going to cheat on you - then you may have other things to discuss.