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Rockstar714 · Jul 18, 2008, 02:52 PM

My mom and I live in WA state and most of her family (her dad, sister and older brother) lives in South Dakota.

Her older brother has always been a little challenged. Something happened when he was young and caused him not to develop mentally all the way. He started living with his grandma at the age of 8 or 9 up until she died last year (at the age of 103). Ever since then we thought he was pretty steady. They had someone coming in to help him and teach him how to live on his own, take care of the dog, etc but that person refuses to go anymore because he doesn't take the dog out and the house (mobile home) is just disgusting. My aunt refuses to help even though the agency that sends the people out say they will pay someone (even family) to help him out, and my grandpa takes on odd jobs so he doesn't have time to do that either.

My mom is debating on moving out there for a few months to help get things situated. There are a ton of cats running around the house (outside) unfixed that no one will do anything with. My uncle has been saying he's taken the dog out and all this stuff, but everyone else has a different story. Lately they've found he's ordered gay porn and his bank account went from having thousands in it to being overdrawn in a matter of weeks. He answers the door naked calling himself a stud (this poor elderly lady came to check on him and he did that), telling my grandpa while they're out in the garden "they're watching you, they're going to come get you, you a-hole" and weird stuff like that.

Anyone have any advice on what can be done? Should my mom go out there and help for a few months? Is it in my uncle's best interest to be put in a home of some sort so someone can care for him and get him the help he needs?

Thanks in advance, sorry for the novel...

N0help4u · Jul 18, 2008, 02:57 PM

Sounds like he would be better off in a home if nobody can take care of him for more than a few months. After a few months of getting his life back together and then you go back home he will be right back where he is right now within a few weeks.

Rockstar714 · Jul 18, 2008, 03:01 PM

That's what I'm thinking. My mom is just too caring I think. My aunt has plenty of time, she's just selfish and my grandpa and my uncle don't get along for whatever reason. My mom only want to stay a few months because she doesn't like it there. She's accustomed to living in the fast paced northwest with rain and greenery and organic vegetables... lol