[talaniman]

What do I do now?

You heal. Regroup, and do what it takes to keep them out of your world,

How do I heal from such betrayal?

By knowing he has done the wrong things because he is a cruel, user and an idiot, and you are better than that. Next time you will look longer and deeper into who you give your heart to. That's a lesson learned, and after you heal, you'll see it's a good lesson to know. Don't be bitter, then he wins by changing you into someone you don't want to be.

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...it-224243.html

Now comes the hard part, You ignored all the red flags that were waving when this began. Now that you know better, take a better look when there are warning signs.

[Boristheblade]

You're right, you're right there's not even any room for deliberation I . HAVE TO MOVE ON but *Sigh* I don't even know how to start healing, I try to keep myself busy but even when I'm fully occupied he still slips into my mind and I literally feel sick. I think about him and what he's done to me ALL DAY EVERY DAY. I tell myself that this feeling will pass and that though we had amazing chemistry and I feel like I won't feel this way about anybody again- that It's not true- I feel better for about a minute. It's so miserable knowing that you've lost the closest friendship and relationship you've ever had, and that somebody you loved with every single part of you, never loved you and treated you with such cruelty for no reason.

[Boristheblade]

A few days ago I had a miscarriage and I din't even know I was pregnant (it was my ex boyfriend's) I'm thinking I shouldn't tell him but I'm not sure if that's fair/right. He hasn't treated me respectfully so Im not sure whether I should be trying to do right by him. We don't talk, after hearing everything he was doing during our relationship I am just PACKED FULL of bitterness and resentment towards him. He doesn't want anything to do with me. I find absolutely nothing to gain in telling him- he will probably just cause me more stress by telling me I'm lying and making me out to be an attention seeker :mad: But something just doesn't sit right with me about not telling someone I was pregnant with his child (again) and have lost it :confused: What should I do?

[danielnoahsmommy]

Not to sound harsh, but what would be the point. I am sorry you lost the baby, I feel for you. There is no baby now there is nothing he can do for you. He may think it was a lie to get back at him or with him. He never treated you with respect and you resent him already. Do you really want to hear his response to your statement to him. It may make you feel worse.

[mrchef1110]

I am sorry for your loss but as the above poster said there is nothing tying you to this boy now. If he wasn't acting right in the first place he will probably see this as a ploy and get even more upset with you. Do yourself a favor and start and keep no contact as this is the fastest way to heal. However, you may want to get some professional help depending on how your are feeling about the miscarriage.

[Boristheblade]

Thanks for the advice. I agree but. something just seems immoral to me about not telling somebody that they made a baby :S Does anyone agree? I don't wish to tell him now but my ex is all hot air, and I love him unconditionally so I know we'll be friends in the future when I've forgiven him- would it be OK to thell him then, or should I not at all?

[talaniman]

For now do nothing at all. There is no point in it. Curious though what you expect him to do, or how do you expect him to react??

Bet if he said so what, you'd be crushed! Leave it alone, please.

[Boristheblade]

I plan to, like I said, I stand nothing to gain from telling him... except like you said Tal, being upset by his reaction :)

[starlite1]

Hi Boris,

I am so sorry about your miscarriage. Right now, as you also feel, I wouldn't tell him about anything. If down the road you become friends, and he has matured mentally, perhaps, but I wouldn't say anything honey.

[Boristheblade]

Somebody told him *sigh* they said because they thought I wanted them to. He hasn't said anything to me about it, and when I asked and they said that it would just upset me I didn't press it- I didn't expect anything more to be honest.