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BriiL713 · Jul 7, 2008, 05:46 PM

So thank you everyone for your advice on my previous question, it worked (To everyone who responded)! But of course, with my luck, a new problem arose... My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for months, and I can't seem to reach orgasm!! It feels good... especially for him (Mr. Lucky_), but I cannot ever seem to be able to reach climax. I don't want to be one of those people who never do!! Is there something wrong with me? Any advice on how to make/help this happen, because at this point i want to just give up!

liz28 · Jul 7, 2008, 06:18 PM

Here are a few ideas for you to try:
Make sure you're good and turned on before you even think about having an orgasm. Try thinking of a fantasy, read some erotica or watch an erotic video to get you in the mood.
Experiment with different positions and techniques. Oral sex may work great for one woman, but others find penetration a sure way to orgasm.
Masturbate. Can you bring yourself to orgasm? If so, teach those techniques to your partner. Or better yet, masturbate with your partner as a witness.
Try a vibrator. Many women find that the best way for them to consistently reach orgasm is through the intense stimulation of a vibrator. Don't be afraid to bring toys into the bedroom if they increase your sexual pleasure.

Most women experience orgasm through clitoral stimulation rather than through vaginal penetration. Therefore, you might want to try clitoral stimulation during, before or after other kinds of sex play. It may be helpful to show your partner what works for you. Vagina penetration is through your g-spot and can also help you orgasm. Also it might be sexual position your in, some help you orgasm faster then others.

Also, sometimes when you are anxious or distracted, stressed, or certain medicine can stop you from achieve one. If you find it difficult to talk with your boyfriend about your thoughts on sex and find sexual positions and foreplay you would enjoy.

I think this should be in adult sexuality rather then relationships. Also, this is common among most women. I forgot to ask your age, I hope your 18 or older.

talaniman · Jul 7, 2008, 06:33 PM

Do you tell him what turns you on, and show him what you like?? Do you know?

Fr_Chuck · Jul 7, 2008, 06:34 PM

Find out how and what you like and what will cause you to reach a orgasm first by yourself, then help teach your partner what you like and how you like it, Get to that point in the foreplay part. Foreplay is so important and often is not given its due.

Yes and if you are not 18, take a cold shower.

BriiL713 · Jul 8, 2008, 06:35 AM

I am 20. And yes, this is my first sexual relationship...

Romefalls19 · Jul 8, 2008, 06:53 AM

Sit down and talk about what turns each other on, he will be willing to help you achieve this. Communication is key, it may be weird to converse about at first but it will be worth it

snuffy · Jul 8, 2008, 09:37 AM

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

find out how and what you like and what will cause you to reach a orgasim first by yourself, then help teach your partner what you like and how you like it, Get to that point in the foreplay part. Foreplay is so important and often is not given its due.

Yes and if you are not 18, take a cold shower.

Or 16 if you are in the UK. No need for an arbitrary age of 18 unless it is prohibited by law in your country's respective law.