[kimdeelee]

This couple had sex straight for 101 nights to strengthen their relationship do u think that's a good idea or a bad one. I was thinking about asking my man to do it as well because we don't have sex as often as we used to maybe it will strengthen our relationship

[kp2171]

Well... it could just as easily become a "task" or something to check off the list if sexual tension isn't experienced.

Id say it depends on the couple, but if you aren't having sex as often now, why set yourself up for "failure"?

Why not throw in other things? Such as instead of sex, one night he rubs you down head to toe? No sex intended. Just a time to connect? Another night you do that for him? One night can be all about his desires? Another one yours? One morning you wake him with oral? Another time he does this for you...

Part of it should be about connection mentally and getting that sensual feeling again. Its true... sometimes you need to "schedule" sex if your life is crazy... so I don't object to that idea... I just think if you both deliberately want to be more connected sexually you need some room for "bad nights" (feeling bad, tired, your cycle hits, etc) and you also need to work on not just having sex, but building that sensual tension.

There are times when I touch my partner or she touched me and it isn't about trying to push the other into sex... it can be about skin on skin and focusing on the other, even if an orgasm is going to be had.

[Fr_Chuck]

Bad idea, first it becomes a requirement, and next it may involve sex during times of period which may or may not be unwanted by the other, also it means doing it if tired or sick and so on.

If your relationship needs help and theory, get foam swords and fight each other every night, ( yes that is a real thing) Or make it that many nighs of no TV and just talking and sharing notes back and forth.

Even some nights of close contact with no sex to make the desires higher.

Sex for 101 nights, sorry that may just make it a lot worst, making sex more of a duty than a enjoyment

[Choux]

I think it would be a good idea for a husband and wife to spend quiet time in bed each day for an hour... just relaxing together nude... a mother's helper taking the kids out to a park to play.

Quiet time, relaxing, no discussing problems, a cool drink, whatever happens, happens.

If one doesn't feed one's relationship with positive input... the relationship goes kaput!

[kp2171]

Obviously I agree with both choux and fr chuck... if you want a "schedule" what about something from the following selection...

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When I find, or my partner finds, a good book about sex or relatonships we pass it to the other, sometimes with sections marked. It's a great way to explore what sounds like fun and get your imagination going.

So maybe some kind of new, playful thing to work through, would give you both some direction, anticipation, and allow you to understand whether you are "on course"?

[Fr_Chuck]

I will agree, there are 100s and 1000's of ways to spice up a relationship,
For husband and wives, I often recommend everything from dress up, role playing, role playing on dates, make sure sex is not just a bedroom activity, sex toys and more. After recommending body paints, and hearing no one could find them, quess that is not done anymore.
I know one couple that used to read articles like penthouse letters to each other to spice some mood.

Then you work on the emotional side, talking, take something and share about it honestly.

[Alty]

If you're marking off your calendar every night for 101 days, that's not good. Sex should be fun, not an everyday chore, and having to commit to daily sex, no matter what, well there goes the fun.

I have to agree with all of the above. Have fun with each other, talk, touch, taste, feel, no expectations, just let yourselves go. Sex isn't just physical, it's also emotional, so get to know each other better emotionally, not just physically.

Fr_Chuck, where can I find those body paints? ;)

[smoothy]

Lets see... we did that over most of my 17 year marriage. But we weren't keeping tally.

[Alty]

Synnen agrees: adamandeve.com

Dang, there goes hubbies paycheck. ;)