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carla20 · Jul 3, 2008, 05:54 PM

My daughter is 15 and her ex boyfriend is 19. She just had a baby 4 weeks ago. I did not pursue the issue of statutory rape because she wanted to wait until the baby was born and see if her and her boyfriend at the time could work on their relationship. It has not worked out between them and I want to know if it is too late to file statutory rape charges because the age of consent in Michigan is 16. I did not know if there is a statue of limitations in Michigan on statutory rape.
Someone please answer me because I am not certain what to do.
Thank You

Fr_Chuck · Jul 3, 2008, 06:37 PM

Ok, you don't charge stat rape just becuae they could not work out a relationship, you charge it because a adult was taking advantage of a child.

If you did not want to see him in jail for years and see him as a sex offender for the rest of his life before, you should not do it now.
If you believe he needs to be put away and the key throw out, then you need to report him

But you don't do it, because he is not going to stay with the girl.
If he does not do that, you get a custody order from the court and get him to pay child support ( which he can not do from jail)

It is stat rape at 15 in migh and you can still have him charged.

N0help4u · Jul 3, 2008, 06:47 PM

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

you don't charge stat rape just becuae they could not work out a relationship, you charge it because a adult was taking advantage of a child.

If you do not want to see him in jail for years and see him as a sex offender for the rest of his life you should not do it now.
If you beleive he needs to be put away and the key throw out, then you need to report him

But you don't do it, because he is not going to stay with the girl.
you get a custody order from the court and get him to pay child support ( which he can not do from jail)

Exactly what I was going to say ( but my computer froze up).

rockinmommy · Jul 4, 2008, 03:58 PM

I just wanted to jump on board with the pervious posters.

The baby daddy should pay child support and fulfill hi obligation to the child. Do you really want your grand child's father to have a sex charge hanging over his head for the rest of his life? Which your grandchild is the result of??

What kind of message are you sending your poor child??

N0help4u · Jul 4, 2008, 04:01 PM

Yeah in the perspective of the child, when your grand baby is older how would he be told daddy is in jail. When he is old enough to understand daddy + rape =me he could take it very hard.

carla20 · Jul 4, 2008, 10:36 PM

Just thought I would let everyone know a little more info. My 15 year old daughter and her 19 year old ex boyfriend decided to give their baby up for adoption. He has put this family through a lot the past few months. He called the police on her 3 times for arguing outside away from the baby. He only called so he would have a record just in case he decided to file for full custody of the baby. The police called them unfit parents and put a report in with cps. A social worker also put a report in with cps so you see they would have taken the baby no matter what. So to protect the baby and to give the baby a better home they decided to put the baby up for adoption. I only want him charged with statutory rape if it is not too late so he does not have to hurt another family and get another girl pregnant under 16 years old. I just feel after all the mess he has put us through that he should pay some how and that is the only way I know how to stop him from doing the same thing to another family.

JudyKayTee · Jul 5, 2008, 06:28 AM

This is the problem when you post basically the same info on 2 different threads - I think everyone who answered you the first time felt that there is some question whether the decision to press charges against him now has something to do with the fact that the relationship did not work out between "him" and your daughter.

Do you really want to drag your daughter through more than she's already been through in order to "stop him from doing the same thing to another family"? I think she's had enough at 15 or 16.

These posts should be combined - I don't see anything here that changes the original advice.

J_9 · Jul 5, 2008, 06:31 AM

excon · Jul 5, 2008, 06:47 AM

Originally Posted by carla20

After all the mess he has put us through that he should pay some how and that is the only way I know how to stop him from doing the same thing to another family.

Hello c:

You aren't listening... You want to put him in jail. You wanted US to agree with you here. We DON'T.

IF you had come to us in the beginning, EVERYONE here would have told you to call the cops - INCLUDING ME! He should have been charged THEN. But, you didn't.

The situation has changed... You aren't pissed that he screwed your daughter. You're pissed that they didn't get together. You were hoping something could be worked out. You were wrong. So, you want to put him in jail for what he did to your "family" - NOT what he did to your daughter... YOUR WORDS!

Look, I can tell that you're going to cops anyway. However, be warned. If you tell a prosecutor the same story, he's not going to charge him either. Your intention here is CLEAR. YOU want your pound of flesh - only it's NOT your pound to get.

excon