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LAMORENABK · Jul 4, 2008, 01:22 AM

I have a sexual Problem!!
I don't feel anything while having sex!.
The only Thing I feel is something going IN AND OUT...
I don't think that's how sex should feelL...
I have never come OR felt any of those Pleasures a woman should have
And the problem is not my partner is me... because I had a different partner before anf the same thing happened...
Absolutely nothink... a going in and out...
HELP ME PLEASE!!

orgless · Jul 4, 2008, 01:27 AM

Join the club I have been saying exactly the same for years now and all I have had is that it's a mental thing, which it really isn't

Fr_Chuck · Jul 4, 2008, 07:11 AM

Do you love the person, or is it just sex, have you explored what you enjoy and showed and taught the partner how to please you ?

orgless · Jul 4, 2008, 07:36 AM

Yes of course I live every inch of him hence why we have been together for 27 yrs

Choux · Jul 4, 2008, 11:23 AM

LAM,

If you don't have any sexual desire-passion, you will feel nothing. Sex will be just like a handshake. "Hey, hi how are ya".

How can you develop passion? That is the question.

I suggest you find out what will give you pleasure by doing various exercises during masturbation. Read erotica(no porn), what makes you hot?

I also would like to say that perhaps you are not really interested in your partner... that you are together for reasons other than sexual attraction.

Another possibility is that you are a lesbian. According to statistics, about 10% of the population is homosexual. Maybe that's you and you have repressed your feelings.

So, a complicated problem.

Sex is mechanical for you... a job... you should probably stop right now. Start a self project of passion building! :)

orgless · Jul 4, 2008, 11:27 AM

Yeah choux you make it sound all so damm easy

No I'm not interested in women I don't read full stop, and I isn't got a clue what makes me "hot" as I don't know what "hot" is

Yes I tried the masturbation thing, its just as boring as the real thing

Choux · Jul 4, 2008, 11:28 AM

I'm not talking to you. :)

orgless · Jul 4, 2008, 11:32 AM

I know that but those are your stock answers to most things on here

Choux · Jul 4, 2008, 11:52 AM

Those are your stock complaints... yawn!

I'm not talking to you. :)

az1346 · Jul 4, 2008, 02:45 PM

I never had organsm during intercourse without using sex toy. My sex toys: fake penis and vibrator. I use a no-fancy-massager that I got from Walmart for $12. Talk to your partner that you need aiding tool to get your org. Play XXX movie to gain your mood. Use sexual lotion, the kind that can increase stimulation. Also, you should wait at least a few days between sexual activities to regain your true sexual desire. Be patient. Explore yourself of what you like the most. Try different kind of vibrators. I only have sex w/ my husband to strengthen the relationship. I satisfy my desire in bathroom myself... I am not Catholic. I am down to earth, and real, and have the sexual needs, and afraid of aides, and try to be faithful to husband.