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chuff · Jul 3, 2008, 02:19 PM

Originally Posted by zooropa1985

one word my friend

Women

Ain't that the truth.

jiltedgirl · Jul 3, 2008, 02:27 PM

Originally Posted by f104

jilted do not be too hard on yourself. I am still hoping to see my ex next week.

Thanks f10~! :) I really appreciate it and hope all goes well with your ex. Update me on what goes down.

At this very moment, I just don't want to care anymore. What sucks is that before I wanted to visit the city (where he is right now) because I genuinely wanted to visit my friends. Now there's another hidden incentive.. so that I can meet up with him (DANGER! ). So I think I may not visit my friends anymore. I don't want the temptation to be there AT ALL. At least I can't contact him anyway once I were to get there. I deleted his number from my cell long ago. (:D Clearly, the one smart thing that I've done! Haha)

I reeeaaally need to drive home the fact that he wants to be friends and nothing more. He only responded to me because he was bored and had nothing better to do. Instead of wondering, I need to accept this reality.

zooropa1985 · Jul 3, 2008, 02:30 PM

Originally Posted by jiltedgirl

Thanks f10~!! :) I really appreciate it and hope all goes well with your ex. Update me on what goes down.

At this very moment, I just don't want to care anymore. What sucks is that before I wanted to visit the city (where he is right now) because I genuinely wanted to visit my friends. Now there's another hidden incentive..so that I can meet up with him (DANGER!!). So I think I may not visit my friends anymore. I don't want the temptation to be there AT ALL. At least I can't contact him anyway once I were to get there. I deleted his number from my cell long ago. (:D Clearly, the one smart thing that I've done! haha)

I reeeaaally need to drive home the fact that he wants to be friends and nothing more. He only responded to me because he was bored and had nothing better to do. Instead of wondering, I need to accept this reality.

One word

Men lol

chuff · Jul 3, 2008, 02:36 PM

Originally Posted by zooropa1985

one word

Men lol

Ain't that the truth.

hjpan · Jul 3, 2008, 03:11 PM

Originally Posted by chuff

Alright, So, I haven't talked to her for a month or so I'd guess. I'm not really sure, it's been a while. We've avoided each other but today she comes in for businesses purposes and we are just making random chit chat about nothing. Then out of the blue she says, "my sister said to tell you hello." I thought that strange since we don't even talk anymore and further that meant I had to come up in conversation at some point. So I just said "tell her hello back." Then she says jokingly but still oddly, "Oh so your cheating on me with my own sister, that's sick." I just said, "Well she's been wanting me for a long time, why not give it to her." Again this was joking and she drops her jaw and gives me this strange look. She then wished me a good weekend and that was it.

Your ex got pwned :)

jiltedgirl · Jul 3, 2008, 03:13 PM

Originally Posted by chuff

Ain't that the truth.

Men suck. They never know what they want. Then again... does anyone until they're in danger of losing that someone?

hjpan · Jul 3, 2008, 04:28 PM

Originally Posted by jiltedgirl

Men suck. They never know what they want. Then again...does anyone until they're in danger of losing that someone?

Girls suck too. MY ex does not know what she wants from me...

jiltedgirl · Jul 3, 2008, 04:42 PM

:( Yes, that was what I was basically getting at. WE--PEOPLE--ALL SUCK. Lol.

ihatewestseneca · Jul 3, 2008, 08:42 PM

So its been 6-7 months? Since the break-up... last contact was during spring break... had a nice 3 hour talk over pie, it felt like I was over her... and I really think I am. But recently I've been thinking about her nonstop... I thought it was just a rough few days, those few days turned into a week, and that week has turned into 2 weeks... I try to stay busy.. but when I am busy I think about how I'm not thinking about her, and then I think about her again.

I know in my mind that its over and done with, but I can't help but think we'll see each other again... maybe its just false hope creeping back in. I just don't get it... I've done everything I could do to get her out, I have 2 jobs for the summer, I've been dating... but nobody really does it for me, y'know?

Is it messed up that pretending to tell her the things I've been doing make me feel better? I'm not exactly talking to myself, but rehearsing what I would say to her... I don't know, it just sucks.

hjpan · Jul 3, 2008, 09:47 PM

Originally Posted by ihatewestseneca

So its been 6-7 months? since the break-up... last contact was during spring break... had a nice 3 hour talk over pie, it felt like i was over her... and i really think i am. but recently i've been thinking about her nonstop... i thought it was just a rough few days, those few days turned into a week, and that week has turned into 2 weeks... i try to stay busy.. but when i am busy i think about how im not thinking about her, and then i think about her again.

i know in my mind that its over and done with, but i can't help but think we'll see each other again... maybe its just false hope creeping back in. i just dont get it... i've done everything i could do to get her out, i have 2 jobs for the summer, i've been dating... but nobody really does it for me, y'know?

is it messed up that pretending to tell her the things i've been doing make me feel better? im not exactly talking to myself, but rehearsing what i would say to her... i dunno, it just sucks.

Same boat here...

it's because the emotions we put through with our ex..

For me, I chose to have sex with my ex when we were dating (even though it was against religious rules) because I thought our relationship would be glued for a while... turns out a year later, I get dumped.

f104 · Jul 3, 2008, 10:51 PM

Originally Posted by jiltedgirl

:( Yes, that was what I was basically getting at. WE--PEOPLE--ALL SUCK. lol.

It's true we all do suck!:)

hjpan · Jul 4, 2008, 12:21 AM

Originally Posted by f104

It's true we all do suck!:)

So we should think of alternative solutions that we don't suck

chuff · Jul 4, 2008, 06:39 AM

Originally Posted by hjpan

So we should think of alternative solutions that we don't suck

True story, I was driving through Wisconsin about a year and half ago, and there was some story on the radio about a guy that was arrestted for having sex with a dead dear on the side of the road. If it's good enough for the people of Wisconsin it's good enough for... you know what, I think we should just stick to getting dumped by humans.

spion_kop · Jul 4, 2008, 07:09 AM

Hey guys.. im having a moment of weakness... I just had a epiphany.. I was looking back at my entire break up and her new boyfriend and realized something.

He wanted to get into her pants less than a week after the break up. She was a virgin with me because we both wanted it that way. Now I have a gut feeling that she isn't anymore... I don't know why but I feeel this way..

It just goes to show how people have changed in such a short span of time

chuff · Jul 4, 2008, 08:41 AM

Originally Posted by spion_kop

hey guys..im having a moment of weakness...i just had a epiphany..i was looking back at my entire break up and her new bf and realized something.

he wanted to get into her pants less than a week after the break up. She was a virgin with me because we both wanted it that way. Now i have a gut feeling that she isnt anymore...i dont know why but i feeel this way..

it just goes to show how ppl have changed in such a short span of time

He wanted to get into her pants or he did? I want to get into Halle Berry's but I'm pretty sure that's not going to happen. Only because we'ver never met, not that I couldn't. Let's be honest here, I am the Chuffster. Is you gut feeling based on something he's saying because people tend to make stuff up. Furthermore, what does that say about the two of you? To me it says one person can keep there word and the other one is her. Look at the positives here, you are honest, she's not, your words have value she does not.

spion_kop · Jul 4, 2008, 09:04 AM

He wanted to get into her pants but she wasn't too comfortable. I think now, after 3 months.. I have that feeling that he has. I know she is not honest, and it also makes me lose even more respect for her. It's not based on what anyone has said, it's something that just hit me. It's a strong feeling.

chuff · Jul 4, 2008, 09:08 AM

Originally Posted by spion_kop

he wanted to get into her pants but she wasnt too comfortable. I think now, after 3 months..i have that feeling that he has. I know she is not honest, and it also makes me lose even more respect for her. It's not based on what anyone has said, it's something that just hit me. It's a strong feeling.

I guess what I'm saying though, isn't this something you could turn around and look as a positive for yourself and not as something that you should be upset about. You were a man, you held onto your word.

bigbird213 · Jul 4, 2008, 10:14 AM

Originally Posted by spion_kop

he wanted to get into her pants but she wasnt too comfortable. I think now, after 3 months..i have that feeling that he has. I know she is not honest, and it also makes me lose even more respect for her. It's not based on what anyone has said, it's something that just hit me. It's a strong feeling.

Another thing to consider:

A feeling is a feeling, no matter how strong. You have no proof, just a gut intuition which has no base. Don't jump to conclusions...

hjpan · Jul 4, 2008, 11:05 AM

Originally Posted by chuff

True story, I was driving through Wisconsin about a year and half ago, and there was some story on the radio about a guy that was arrestted for having sex with a dead dear on the side of the road. If it's good enough for the people of Wisconsin it's good enough for..............you know what, I think we should just stick to getting dumped by humans.

My plan for solution is to work and study hard... get my hands-on-training so I can work at a hospital and study as part-time student.

hjpan · Jul 4, 2008, 11:08 AM

Originally Posted by spion_kop

he wanted to get into her pants but she wasnt too comfortable. I think now, after 3 months..i have that feeling that he has. I know she is not honest, and it also makes me lose even more respect for her. It's not based on what anyone has said, it's something that just hit me. It's a strong feeling.

I will definitely laugh if he leaves her within a year.

As for you, spion_kop, focus your mind on other stuff.. I have the same problem too. My ex told me her new guy-friend tried to get some, but she said she did not give in. I really don't care as much anymore.... I am looking forward to work hard to pass university and work at a hospital as an assistant.

Pretty good deal?I think so... one year income is about 20k-30k for a 20 year old student