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belugawhalegirl · Jul 2, 2008, 10:01 PM

Hello,

I am just wondering what everyone's thoughts are on early marriage. I am 17 but my boyfriend wants to propose when I am 18 which will be in roughly 6-7 months. By the time everything is probably figured out and settled and we would get married I will probably be about 19 and he will still be 18 (he is 6 months younger in age than me.) I really want to marry him because he have always planned on being high school sweethearts. I met him about 4 years ago in Freshmen year of high school and this month will be our 1 year and 1 month anniversary. I really love him and my family loves him, my friends love him and of course I love him. He is respectful, a gentalmen, he is smart, funny. Just everything I would ever want and totally cute which is just a extra bonus to him being a nerd computer geek and a total cutie. I really love him he can always make me laugh and he is always look out for me and he even texts my mom!He lives about 400 miles away so we don't get to see each other much and his family life is really bad and there are only two things making me worried about young marrige.. one is his family... I'm very afraid of them because his dad is pretty insane and bi-polar and paraniod and second what if we get married and then grow apart?

Can any of you help me to either tell me if that is a bad idea or ease my worries or even if you were married young or are getting married young tell me your story!

Thanks.:cool:

N0help4u · Jul 2, 2008, 10:04 PM

You seem like you are thinking things though that is a plus. And if you are in love and don't have any things that make you hesitant about marrying him I think it would work. I wouldn't use his parents issues as a draw back you are marrying him not them.
Any couple can grow apart it is up to the two of you to make it work and keep the spark in your marriage.

ylaira · Jul 3, 2008, 01:02 AM

U are still growing as a person by then. Before thinking about marriage, make sure your both matured enough. So many trials not only adjustment on your partner's quirks, consider finances, career, who's who, Love isn't enough when considering marriage. Trust me.

donf · Jul 3, 2008, 01:46 PM

Both my wife and I were 18 when we married. We are in our sixties now and in 7 days we will be married 43 years and working on 44.

It can be done, but the learning curve can be brutal at times. We have never regretted getting married, but we do wish we had waited until we were older. The hardest part is learning to live with another person. Learning how to fight fair is another biggie and learning how and when to laugh at yourselves. Perhaps our biggest strength is that we play well together, then and now!