[linnie24]

Me and my ex went out for eight months and we had a lot invested in this time. She has a four year old boy that I was around a lot and my familys kids were too. We were planning on moving in together till we had a fight a couple of months ago. At that time she said we need to wait on moving in as expected but it may only be a month longer or it could be a year longer. I should say that our fight revolved around me being insecure and paranoid about her cheating on me. I was a little because she seemed distant at times from me, but then showed her love the next. After Memorial day we got into a fight again about the same issues and she said she needs to slow things down because she felt that she had to make time for me whenever I was off work and it was straining her relationship with her kid. I need to add that she has her boy all the time but Wednesdays and every other weekend. So one of the fights was about me wanting to talk on a Wed night when she was free from her kid to work out our problems. She said she was going out with her friends because she don't get time to go out and she was going to do that. I tried to slow things down but she pushed me away when we could have been at the same place, telling me she don't feel like this is slowing down. It made me mad and it turned into a complete break up that was a result of stupid thing being said while drunk. She said she is DONE and she don't want this anymore. I made attempts to contact her by email,text and phone but not in person. I sent flowers to her work and she didn't call or anything(that was a couple days ago) I emailed her friend and she pretty much confirmed what she was saying to me about being done and she didn't want to talk about it. Her friend said she just wants to move on. Like I said we had a lot in 8 months and I am having a hard time accepting this as over. I won't contact her in person because that would be bad but I can't give up all together. In my mind she wanted all this because of another guy but I guess that's what anyone would think right? With this kind of a stonewall should I do any more or should I do what everyone else says and leave her alone? See if she comes back? If I don't hear from her her should I and when do I contact her to see if there is still a chance?

[N0help4u]

You tied your own hands. Nothing much you can do she wants no contact and she is moving on. Sending her flowers and texts is not going to melt her heart and send her running back into your arms or she would have done it already. When a girl is to the point she is at any contact can seem to her like you are being annoying and only adds to the fact she doesn't want bothered any more.

Move on!

[talaniman]

With this kind of a stonewall should I do any more or should I do what everyone else says and leave her alone?

Definitely leave her alone, as your nothing but a problem for her, or any one else you get with. Work on your own personal issues, and if you don't, they will wreck your life again. If you need more help, get a therapist to guide you through the process of dealing with your own feelings, and behavior, in a more positive way, as what ever your doing just ain't working.