[hjpan]

the smoking and non drinking i can understand. but if she has to be a virgin and veggie...why?

Cause I'm a vegetarian xD? Got to find suitable partners, right?

For virgin part... I just like girls who are virgins =/??

[classicrocker]

Hmm I don't know I'm no theropist so I guess there is nothing wrong with people wanting what they want are you saying if you met a great woman and you 2 got along great you would end it if not a virgin?

[hjpan]

hmm idk im no theropist so i guess there is nothing wrong with people wanting what they want are you saying if you met a great woman and you 2 got along great you would end it if not a virgin?

Well.. if she has had sex with 1 person... I'm good with that..

But with like 3 or more... no way

[f104]

Well.. if she has had sex with 1 person... I'm good with that..

But with like 3 or more... no way

So why is it important how many people she has slept with? Really it is no business of mine how many people somebody has slept with. There are so many wonderful people in the world I think it would a shame not to see a person due to how many sexual partners they have had. Incidentally in my mid 20s I was seeing a woman who had years before been a prostitute. She had more than a 1,000 partners. She was also one of the sweetest, caring and most honest people I have ever met. That relationship ended not because of her but because of me. I went back in the military and that was not the life she wanted. I saw her a couple of years ago and she is still an amazing woman and married with a great family.

Don't let the numbers game stop you from meeting wonderful people. We all have histories.

[spion_kop]

Hey guys,

Everything is going well so far. I've just been working out and watching the Euros. This Sunday would have been our 3 years. I guess I'm getting a bit edgy right now. I wonder what she might be thinking ha?
How's the rest of you doing?

[bigbird213]

Spion,

Next time your feeling edgy, turn the sound up on the game and invite the buds over :)

Being around your friends can do wonders.

[plonak]

Yes yes yes, friends are there to help you move on!

[jiltedgirl]

thanks

quick side off question:

As a guy, I have some standards when I choose a girl.. I don't know if it's too much though~
My standards are: virgin, vegetarian, non-smoker, & non-alcoholic

is that a lot to ask?

hjpan-
I can understand you wanting someone who is a vegetarian, non-smoker, and/or non-alcoholic... but whaaaat? She has to be a virgin?! :eek:

I think the "virgin" bit is not only a double standard (unless you're a virgin as well), but unrealistic. So.. it's fine once you take their virginity? That's odd. Go for the person, not their sexual past.

[hjpan]

hjpan-
I can understand you wanting someone who is a vegetarian, non-smoker, and/or non-alcoholic...but whaaaat?? She has to be a virgin?!? :eek:

I think the "virgin" bit is not only a double standard (unless you're a virgin as well), but unrealistic. So..it's fine once you take their virginity? That's odd. Go for the person, not their sexual past.

I just don't want to get infected with STDs or HIV/AIDs?

[bigbird213]

I think the "virgin" bit is not only a double standard (unless you're a virgin as well)

An important consideration...

[spion_kop]

I have been doing that, there have also been some ladies who I watch the game with. Right now life's good, there are some moments when you feel down but other than that, you just take it one day at a time.

[hjpan]

Anyone want to give advise for me?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...st-230736.html

[jpm247]

HJ,

There's nothing wrong with having a criteria of the type of person you are after or are attracted to, but having a bit of flexibility in this is a good idea.

Me, I like brunettes with long hair, about 5"4-5"7 and slim, with great legs and a cute bum. Always been a leg man as opposed to a breast man. But if I meet a great girl who is blonde, I won't turn her down on the basis of her hair colour.

I've met up with my ex a couple of times in the last week, and its been good, and she has had her brunette hair cut quite short, and I don't see myself saying, no I'm not going to see you because you have short hair.

Go with the flow and see who you meet. I understand about the STD issue, but don't you think that people are careful and don't want to contract one? Just because someone isn't a virgin doesn't mean they have an STD.

[bigbird213]

just because someone isn't a virgin doesn't mean they have an STD.

Good point - I think personality will tell you her chances of having an STD before her past. If she is a slut then... be careful. It's a risk of a one night stand :p

[hjpan]

Good point - I think personality will tell you her chances of having an STD before her past. If she is a slut then....be careful. Its a risk of a one night stand :p

But looks can be deceiving D;

[f104]

Hi all. Star you deserve the best, you really do. Hell we all deserve the best.

As damage said sometimes not getting what we want is just what the doctor ordered. Of course I am having trouble seeing that at the moment but I know that has often been true for me.

Hope you guys have got plans for this weekend. It is important for me that I keep myself occupied. Today I had class then I went to the driving range. Tomorrow is paintball and then out on the town. Sunday is study and then watch the Eurocup with mates and sink a few lagers.

As long as I am doing things I find it is easier to get over my past relationship. I find it is important that I spend time with other people. The more time I spend with myself the worse I get. I hate to say it but "my brain is out to get me."

Hey if anybody here wants to IM me then feel free. Or if you have a myspace of Facebook account I will add you as a mate. Anyway my e-mail/IM is [email protected]

[hjpan]

Hi all. Star you deserve the best, you really do. Hell we all deserve the best.

As damage said sometimes not getting what we want is just what the doctor ordered. Of course I am having trouble seeing that at the moment but I know that has often been true for me.

Hope you guys have got plans for this weekend. It is important for me that I keep myself occupied. Today I had class then I went to the driving range. Tomorrow is paintball and then out on the town. Sunday is study and then watch the Eurocup with mates and sink a few lagers.

As long as I am doing things I find it is easier to get over my past relationship. I find it is important that I spend time with other people. The more time I spend with myself the worse I get. I hate to say it but "my brain is out to get me."

Hey if anybody here wants to IM me then feel free. Or if you have a myspace of facebook account I will add you as a mate. Anyway my e-mail/IM is [email protected]

My facebook:
http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/pr...p?id=861820695

[jiltedgirl]

Good point - I think personality will tell you her chances of having an STD before her past. If she is a slut then....be careful. Its a risk of a one night stand :p

Actually, it's more difficult to detect STIs in men than women, even if you've been tested. For HPV, men predominantly do not show any symptoms, and they may end up infecting their partner unknowingly. As a result, those women with HPV may have to face cervical cancer and infertility in the future. Some STIs may not even manifest. Even genital herpes does not necessarily appear in infected persons. Yet, the virus can shed at the site of infection, even though there are no symptoms. In the case of chlamydia, which shows little to no symptoms, women at a disadvantage when it comes to the sexes--the possibility of irreversible infertility. Men, on the other hand, get a funny discharge.

I'm just letting you know. :D
... I hope I didn't scare anyone into celibacy!!

[jiltedgirl]

Good point - I think personality will tell you her chances of having an STD before her past. If she is a slut then....be careful. Its a risk of a one night stand :p

Actually, it's more difficult to detect STIs in men than women, even if you've been tested. For HPV, men predominantly do not show any symptoms, and they may end up infecting their partner unknowingly. As a result, those women with HPV may have to face cervical cancer and infertility in the future. Some STIs may not even manifest. Even genital herpes does not necessarily appear in infected persons. Yet, the virus can shed at the site of infection, even though there are no symptoms. In the case of chlamydia, which shows little to no symptoms, women at a disadvantage when it comes to the sexes--the possibility of irreversible infertility. Men, on the other hand, get a funny discharge.

I'm just letting you know. :D
... I hope I didn't scare anyone into celibacy!!

[bigbird213]

Well then - I'll shut up :)

Good info though, thanks.