[pkh1955]

Ima young adult and dated a guy for 4 yrs it has been 2 yrs ago he and my mom had a argument, my mom told him she was sorry but to never let what happen take place again, and that he is welcom in our home, he will not except, I care a lot for him but I now have to always go to family functions alone or by myself, he won't come to my house so I have to drive to his, help me on what to do.

[Johnny Knocker]

You need to make him understand that he's dating you, and not your parents. I had this happen to a good friend of mine, and until he realized that he wouldn't go back to her house either. Just make him understand that you still love/like him and that what happened between him and your mom didn't change anything. Ask him to come over, if he doesn't feel comfortable then he can leave.

But it's been 2 years since it happened and he hasn't been to your house or seen your parents since then?

[N0help4u]

I am confused now are you the daughter or the mother?
According to your other post you were the mother.

[pkh1955]

Not at all, he said he will feel uncomfortable, but until he tries how will he know? He has issues with his own mom has not talked to her in 5 yrs.

[pkh1955]

My daughter is posting under my sign in, I guess she should set up her own, but you can tell by the questions who is who

[N0help4u]

But the site doesn't approve of it and it gets confusing for the ones who reply.

[pkh1955]

OK I will have her set up one can we use the same email we share the same comp. or do I have to set up a diff emailalso

[confused1145]

All you can do is give him some time. Sounds like his pride is in the way now. Maybe he will come around, but sounds like he holds grudges. Just continue to reassure him that he's welcome and ask if he will make an exception for you.

[ch1982]

Thanks confused I set up my own log in was using my moms pkh1955 and what if he doesn't come around its been 2 yrs