[BrokenHeartkali]

Please help me! I'm a complete mess and I realllly don't know what to do!

<note: We lost our virginitys together and did everything sexually together for the first time. I've been to Colorado with him 2 spend xmas with his family and he's even told me ha can't wait till he can propose to me and have kids n all these reallllly deep things. He's also afriad of comitment>


Me and Boyfriend of a year n two weeks broke up 2months and 2 weeks ago..
He said he didn't want to be ina relationship and I was pretty OK with that. And then I found out that and I backed off n gave him his space expecting him to come back with in a cuple days. Then I found out that there has been a girl at his house (just the two of them) and of course I freaked and called him crying. He came over and he said that they were just friends and he mite have feelings for her but they both just got outa a relationship and weren't ready. He said he didn't want a GUARNTEED relationship, but he didn't think we were guna get back together but I would always be his poohbear (nickname) and heed always love me. During that time of 3 weeks he was calling n texting and we were trying to be friends and blah blah. We went on a walk one day where we were flirting, pusing each other off the side walk, tickling each other, etc. and then the next day I texted him and was like.. Hey do you want to go on a walk with me tonight? And he texted back saying that he wasn't home and that he already made plans to go out with his girlfriend!

<note: every time we talked and he had to say something about this girl hed call her his friend or by her name.. neeeeever girlfriend!>

So after that I texted him saying I want this n this n this back (things I bought him).. n he texted me and said.. its on your front porch. So I go out there and not only did he give me the things I wanted back.. he gave me alll my pictures all my cards.. evvvverything! So I called him and was like y'd you give me those things? He said he thought I was mad and he figured I wanted everything back. I said no I just wanted the things you don't deserve back. Did you not care about giving me the cards n stuff? He said well you.. so he came over and got the things I didn't want back and the first thing he did was throw both arms around me.. then I was going inside and he was like.. you don't want to stay n talk? So I stayed..

then his best friend was like you need to know something.. This girl n him have donr eveything but have sex.. as in he's even gone down on her and they've only been dating for one week.. She gave him head without him asking and then asked him to do the same to her... =[[[ then a couple weeks later he told me that they got thiiiis close to having sex and he gave her the whole are you sure speech and then they almost did it and he backed down and told her no (im not sure what his reason to her was though)

Note: This girl just broke up like 2 weeks before we did with her ex of two years. And every time they broke up she went and head sex with another guy.. even withim 2 day periods. She's a hoe.

you know how baaad it hurts right now! Theve been dating a little over a month now and I don't know if they've had sex? Do you think they will or have? I know he's a loser and I know I need to move on but I'm sooooo deeply in love with him. I want to be with him the rest of my life (im 16 and he's 17.. that's a pretty big deal because I know I have the rest of my life to go.. but idc I want him.) I miss him soooooooo bad and I've been told not to talk to him so I haven't in like 23 days now... no contact... its killing me.. I've also noticed that on myspace he's told her how lucky he is to have her and he deleted me n all my friends and changed his pass. And has pics up of them together..

what do I do? Please help me! I want to be back with him soooo bad! I'm sure he loves me rite? What can I do? Do you think he's coming backkk? Please tell me yess? I love and miss him with all my heart? What do you think he's doing? What do you thinks going through his head? Please help.. I want him back! Do u think he's coming back? I miss him soooooooooooooooooo much...

help?:confused:

[JBeaucaire]

I have a HUGE long answer for you. But you already know the answer and you're just venting. Let's see...

I know hes a loser and i know i need to move on but im sooooo deeply in love with him. i wanna be with him the rest of my life...

You see the problem, right? Your feelings are your enemy. Your mind is screaming at you, your spirit is crushed and aching to get away, but these dumb old "feelings" seem to have more power than they deserve.

If he's a loser and you need to move on... then you DON'T really want to spend the rest of your life with him. He's a loser.

At some point, you listen to your common sense, even if it hurts. That's what growing up means. At your age you're able to accept these hard facts, so stop backpedaling.

You WILL get over the pain. You two will always have those old feelings for each other, but they're irrelevant now. He's shown you who he is and what he wants to do and it's not your "thing", is it?

So you move on. You know that already.

[jrsg]

I've used this sentence many times to explain this to people:
"Your heart tells you one thing, but your mind tells you another."
LISTEN TO YOUR MIND!

[godsbabygirl267]

No, He is not coming back. And if he does, don't accept him. Obviously, to me at least, he didn't care enough about you before he dated her, and he won't care any more about you after they break up. Yes, he will say he's so sorry and that he was and idiot for leaving you, and all the other things that should make it better. But, in a few months, weeks, even days, when he sees another girl he wants, he will just leave you broken hearted and feeling miserable again. So NO, he is not coming back, not really, and I think you already know this, wow, I guess I know the answer to my problem to. Even when it hurts, and yes, I know it can hurt real bad, even when it hurts, you have to be strong. You have to find the better person in you and be a stronger woman.

[seeyah]

I know it hurts but yes u do need to move on and maybe when he see's that he'll remember how swell of a time he had with you and come back to you. If he doesn't then he is not worth your attention and he really is a loser.