[jessy0428]

I was 17 when I had my daughter.I am 20 now. And even though I wasn't ready right then , I would not change it for anything in the world. I had already dropped out of school before I got pregnant and I had a great job. But I have been on my own since I was 15 so I knew how to support myself. It is the hardest thing you will have do but at the same time it's the greatest. When you have a baby this young life changes more then you could possibly imagine. I have no friends , I never get to go out and party(not that I want to) I will be 21 soon and I have never been to a club. I am a stay at home mom.(the greatest job EVER) There are hundreds of more sacrifices you have to make when you decide to become a mother. My husband and I had been together 2 yrs before I got pregnant. How long have you and your boyfriend been together? Just remember that everything you do once you become pregnant will effect that child for the rest of his and her life. They look up to you as a role model , you are everything to them.And you have to be prepared for everything else that could and will happen.The sleepless night , a baby that won't stop crying, then there is the sick baby(it will break your heart to watch your child be so sick and to know that there is nothing you can do for them and you want to so bad because you are their mother and you are suppose to be there to protect them and make them feel better)When my daughter was 6 months she kept getting bruises all over her body that could not be explained.We had lots of test run and about 3 days letter a got a call from the doctor saying that one of her test came back positive for a disease.That was the worse day of my life , because once you become a mother you stop worrying about yourself and you worry about your child. And on that day there was nothing I could do to protect her and I thought I was going to lose my baby that I had only had for such a short time.It' s a mothers worse nightmare. But we had more test run and it turned out they were wrong.But for that 3 days in between test I thought I was going to lose my baby, and trust me the is the worst feeling you could ever imagine having.Those are the kind of things you have to be ready for when you become a mother.Then there is pregnancy and child birth. In pregnancy you get the pleasure of gaining weight and getting stretch marks(so attractive)and labor is not fun at all. I was in labor for 14 hrs and never dilated then I had to have an emergency c-section because her cord was wrapped around her neck and her heat rate was dropping. So if you are ready for ALL of those responsibilities plus a thousand more then I wish you the best in the world. But all opinions aside, it can take a while to become pregnant .Like I said my husband and I were together for 2 yrs and had sex everyday sometimes 2 or 3 times and it still took 2 yrs.If after a yr and still nothing and you and your boyfriend are still together then you can both go to the doctor and make sure there is nothing wrong with either of you. But it takes time and 2 months is not long enough. Also another question.. does he know that you are trying to get pregnant? If he doesn't I suggest you tell him because guys are not into being " tricked" into having a baby.

[Synnen]

Jessy... did you read the ENTIRE thread?

There's more going on here than just a girl accidentally getting pregnant with her boyfriend.

[jessy0428]

Jessy...did you read the ENTIRE thread?

There's more going on here than just a girl accidently getting pregnant with her boyfriend.

Yes I read it all. I was just letting her know how hard it is to have a baby at 17 accidentally or because you are trying. It doenst matter either way there is a baby involved and a 17 yrs old. So yes I read it. Her question is what's the best way to get pregnant right?. Well I told her it takes time usually more then 2 months. And the best way is to have sex. So believe my anwer is just fine.

[Synnen]

Ack, omg... my apologies.

I had 2 windows open, and mixed up my threads.

You are correct--and a great post on your part. Congratulations on making it work as a teen mom! I have admiration for you--and thanks for posting about the difficulties of being a mother, which is true regardless of age, but may be paid more attention to because the OP can relate better to you. And great points about her boyfriend, too.

Again, I'm sorry--I was mixing up my threads, and *I* should have paid better attention.

[jessy0428]

Ack, omg....my apologies.

I had 2 windows open, and mixed up my threads.

You are correct--and a great post on your part. Congratulations on making it work as a teen mom!! I have admiration for you--and thanks for posting about the difficulties of being a mother, which is true regardless of age, but may be paid more attention to because the OP can relate better to you. And great points about her boyfriend, too.

Again, I'm sorry--I was mixing up my threads, and *I* should have paid better attention.

It is all right , I just could not understand why you didn't think it was correct , but now I understand, so it so okay!

[Xrayman]

1. Finish High School.
2. Go to college.
3. Get a good job.
4. Meet a guy who ALSO has a good job.
5. Put some money in savings because babies are EXPENSIVE, and I don't want to pay for yours with my taxes
6. Get married
7. Tell your OB/GYN during the checkup that you've been getting EVERY YEAR that you would like to try to conceive
8. Track your ovulation
9. Have sex a couple days BEFORE you are due to ovulate.
10. Consult with your doctor again if you are still having difficulties conceiving after a year.

This plan should only take you 6-7 years to complete, by which time you will have grown up enough to not be completely ticked off at my advice.

OH dear.

The perfect answer.

[AlwaysWriting]

First and foremost, you're far too young to have a baby. Try getting a puppy instead.

[Alty]

AlwaysWriting. That actually reminds me of my wedding day. I was 24 when I got married, the ink wasn't even dry on the marriage certificate and already people are asking when we're going to have a baby. I told them that we were getting a dog, and if we couldn't keep the dog alive then we had no business having a baby.

At 24 I was still too young to have a child, I can't imagine doing it at 17. I'm 37 now and have two kids, really, it's the hardest job I've ever had, wait until you're older.

[Moparbyfar]

AlwaysWriting. That actually reminds me of my wedding day. I was 24 when I got married, the ink wasn't even dry on the marriage certificate and already people are asking when we're going to have a baby. I told them that we were getting a dog, and if we couldn't keep the dog alive then we had no business having a baby.

At 24 I was still too young to have a child, I can't imagine doing it at 17. I'm 37 now and have two kids, really, it's the hardest job I've ever had, wait until you're older.

Out of interest...

How long did the dog live? :) ;)

[Alty]

He's still alive today, he's 13 years old and going strong. I have a 9 year old son and a 5 year old daughter. :)

[brittany1991]

Wow thanks its crazy what people has been writeing me

[Allheart]

wow thanks its crazy what people has been writeing me

Hey Brittany -

So glad you came back. So now that you saw what everyone shared with you, how do you feel about things now?

[ScottGem]

wow thanks its crazy what people has been writeing me

I'm also glad you came back, but why do you think its crazy? I think you have gotten excellent advice based on the little you posted.

[Alty]

I have to agree with Scott. You've gotten advice from allot of people who have been 17 years old and lived to tell the tale. Honey, bottom line, no 17 year old should get pregnant on purpose, heck, if the world was a better place no 17 year old would get pregnant by accident either. Plain and simple, you are way to young.

Trust me, one day, many years from now, you will come back to this site, see a thread where the OP is 17 and asking how to conceive a baby, and you will give the same advice that we are giving you now. Just wait until you're older, you have the rest of your life ahead of you, don't be in such a hurry to grow up. Enjoy being a teen, you never get those years back honey, you just never do.

[dunno]

Alt---Love what you said about getting a dog instead!

My boyfriend and I got a puppy about 3 years ago. She was the worst puppy ever. SHe ate everything in sight and got up several times a night to go outside. Even now, and she's 3 years old, she STILL wants out at 4:30 in the morning!

I always said "If you're thinking about having kids, get a puppy. THey cry at night. Wake you up at all hours and get into EVERYTHING!"