[Worried76]

Hello, I don't even know how to start this. I have a cousin, we are both almost 32 yrs old. We both have 3 kids. I babysit her two youngest while she works. About a month after babysitting she started lying to me about having cancer and chemo treatments after work. I was so worried about her I couldn't sleep I couldn't eat... I was a nervous wreck... thinking how could I live without her, and if she died would her 3 yr old even remember her? Of course I would make sure he did. Anyway she started saying she was getting tumors all over. One in her stomach, in her colon.. on the roof of her mouth etc... she has told so many people so many different stories that we don't know what's going on. She weighs 376 lbs. I think she is having problems with her husband. What I think is that she is getting that gastro whatever surgery, because she mentioned it to me months before I started babysitting for her. She treats her older two kids like crap, and has them waiting on her hand and foot why she lays in bed every minute she is home, saying that the meds and the chemo is keeping her in bed... she has not lost any hair... she mows her lawn when she wants.. and plants flowers when she wants... I just can't believe what she is saying.. and she is not the type of person you can confront. Even her mother and father don't believe her and won't say nothing to her. I need help getting her help. I think she has some major major problems stemming from her childhood. She now does the same to her kids that was done to her... favortism... abuse mentally... but only to the older two... the little one runs that house, she lays in bed, her husband sits in front of the playstation, and they expect her 14 yr old daughter to watch him... well guess what she don't always... she is a teen. So then when I get him he is hellion on wheels, and almost 4... and I have to punish him none stop... and I tell her about everything, and she tells other people that is my kids that are mean to him... and just tells other lies.. yes my daughter is 3 too.. and they do fight... and sometimes it is her starting it.. and sometimes its her son. My daughter has punishment. And I watch my children and the things they are doing. Please someone give me some advise on how we all should confront her on all these major things she is lying about. And how to get her to be a better mother without making her feel like crap for the mother she is. I know she has a good heart, I just think something is wrong with her mentally.

[twinkiedooter]

Your cousin needs to start doing things for herself instead of making you wait on her. If you are paid to babysit her kids, please do yourself a favor and find another job. This woman has a bad case of L-A-Z-Y it is and I can see it will only get much worse with you and your children taking the brunt of this woman's venom. You and your child don't need to be exposed to this type abuse (especially your 3 year old). It sounds like at this point she does not want any help and will continue to be a drama queen to get attention at the expense of everyone who will listen to her lies.