[liar2]

Hi mom... What would you call this situation... I observed that he likes me around him all the time rite, and sometimes I go out with my girl friends to hang out a bit... Anytime he hears I have to go... he gets all sad... he would look like a puppy in a corner... but he won't tell me not to go or anything...

But he talks different as though I leaving him in a dark hole all alone... is that being possessive? One time he called me, and he was sounding as though he would cry... lol... u know him for his crying issues... lol.. is this a way to be possessive?

Then one time he had to go out with his friend to a guys lime... and I told him to go enjoy himself. So when I said I would go hang out as well he said he wasn't feeling good... he was staying home... n told me if I wanted I could go to hang out... n he put his face sad again.

What is that about?? Before he use to hang out a lot with his friend , but now he wants me to go hang out with them as well... I feel a bit weird , because I feel like a kill joy... y should he carry me on his boys lime>? I don't carry him on my girls lime? But I don't want to disappoint him by not going with him.

But besides that... I really getting to like him a lot.

[talaniman]

Any glitch in the program, talk about it, and never assume. When you get it from the horses mouth, you know how to deal with it.

[Mom of 2]

Good communication in every relationship is the key to a good relationship. Tell him how it makes you feel when he does the things that he does. Just like you said it here. Couples do need time by themselves with their own friends. This is normal. If he has a problem with that, then there may be a problem. If anything, I think he is being more manipulative than really possessive (at least at this point). However, every possessive relationship that I know of (I was in one myself) started with manipulation. You may want to read the definition of Borderline Personality Disorder. I am not a psychologist, but I have read this definition and I know that my ex exhibited a lot of those traits, which seems similar to your situation. If you feel uncomfortable, hesitant, confused in this relationship, then you need to uncover why you are feeling this way. What are the triggers? First and foremost, talk to him about how you feel. If he becomes defensive and/or angry, no matter how much you like him, you need to make a decision about what your next step will be. Will you stay with him? Do you want to end it right there? I feel that you have a lot of doubt about this relationship, even though you express that you really like him. You may really like him, but can you spend the rest of your life filled with doubt and/or walking on egg shells?