[ylaira]

I'm not saying that all here are Westerners but I believe most are because were using english (btw, Im asian&Im not racist, please don't get me wrong:cool: ) , I'm just curious why when someone is troubled on their relationship, 90% advises about letting go without doing something first? If the problem just sounds like communication issue and the person seems not beaten up, abused in whatsoever, why let go ahead?

[Fr_Chuck]

Please understand most people who have not read your previous posts have no idea what you are tlking about.

You are in a long distance computer relationshp with someone much older. I think part of the issue is, that my guess over 1/2 of the men online talking with women are lying, and are good at it. So unless you have had chances to come and visit first, it is hard to tell.

And since your other posts talk about having issues already in a non face to face relatoinship, real life is normally going to be harder and worst.
So your relationship may make it great, on the other hand, he may be looking for more of a servant than a lover and partner.

[Bluerose]

I just wanted to express the importance of not basing others on people you have met online. So many people simply treat meeting people on line as a bit of fun. If something nice works out good but for the most part it's just for fun. Real life relationships are very complex and can be very difficult. I admire anyone who can just sit down and talk things through.

[ylaira]

Please understand most poeple who have not read your previous posts have no idea what you are tlking about.

You are in a long distance computer relationshp with someone much older. I think part of the issue is, that my guess over 1/2 of the men online talking with women are lying, and are good at it. So unless you have had chances to come and visit first, it is hard to tell.

and since your other posts talk about having issues already in a non face to face relatoinship, real life is normally going to be harder and worst.
So your relationship may make it great, on the other hand, he may be looking for more of a servant than a lover and partner.

My current relationship is totally out of this. If it is, I should have answered on the thread I started. Ask me is not the only thread and thats what I mostly noticed I read thats what I noticed thats why I am asking.

[Emland]

I think it is realism rather than impatience. For instance if someone is dating player but wants him to be a homebody, no amount of whining, crying, pleading or threatening is going to change that person. When people from the outside are evaluating a relationship as it is related by the poster (which is almost always biased) all they can do is generalize. When I see someone post "what should I do?" then read all the horrible things this person does, then it is easy to say"dump him!" Why? Because there are too many men in this world and life is too short to put up with jerks. I also believe that there are way too many desperate women who lack the confidence in themselves to find a good guy and stick with the loser they are with for fear of not finding someone else.

[mrchef1110]

Also when you are on the inside of a relationship you can be blinded by the emotions that come with it. Giving it time and the ability to clear your head allows you to make a choice based on the unadulterated truth rather than emotional feelings. Also if you are the dumpee, as most of the people who come here are, its impossible to change other peoples feelings. So instead of pining for them back you work on yourself which is gift when you come to think about it which might return dividends be it getting back with the ex or be it getting with a new girl who is 10 times better.

[ylaira]

Well said dudes! Also the person who is aking is blinded by the negative emotions he/she has at the time of writing. In effect, most likely she'll write all negative things and forget to write some positve things, just for objectivity purposes of the person who will later make an advice.