[starlite1]

SoConfused: I think you are doing the right thing here. It takes two in a relationship, and you are the only one who has given... He clearly was taking...

[damaged]

cfloveu why should she stay in the relationship?.
She's not happy... He is because he gets w.e he wants.. He's not going to change.. so the best thing for her to do is get out

[damaged]

I agree with starlite.. she gives, gives, gives & he takes, & takes & takes... thats not fair...

[cfloveu]

cfloveu why should she stay in the relationship??...
She's not happy...He is bc he gets w.e he wants..He's not gonna change..so the best thing for her to do is get out

It is not always correct that if the man seems disturbed and the women in his life walks out, without discussing things and understanding what's happening. Men should also think likewise.

[JBeaucaire]

Just straight away breaking up doesn mean anything. If she gives him up she can never get back to him (If God wishes so)....And here she has to take chances and move on with him than breaking the doors.

This guy has used me for the last year...I am his babysitter...I am his ATM...I was a full time resaurant...our "good moments" were too long ago...his soon to be ex-wife and she said that one of her major problems was that he couldn't keep a job...

...This wasn't him going berserk due to unexpected situations...he just doesn't want to work, and wants to be taken care of! I have put up with a lot in the last year with him and I tried to love him through good and bad...but all the good is gone and I can't love someone when it is all bad!

Sound like you win that round hands down. You go girl.

Sorry, cfloveu, I am a HUGE defender of sticking it out, read my posts and you'll see that. But she isn't married to this guy, she was dating him. This guy hasn't panned out to be what she wants to spend her life putting up with. That's the point of dating.

Unconditional "thick or thin" thinking starts at the altar. She gets to look forward to that day and standing next to a guy worthy of her devotion.

[SoConfusedHappy]

Cfloveu... don't think that him and I have not spent many sleepless nights talking and trying to work this out... he doesn't want to change anything. He doesn't understand why him getting a job is such a big deal to me... your saying that whatever I have to do to stay in this relationship I should do... I don't want this relationship. I want a man... with a job, no wife, a place of his own, etc. This is not that man... nor will he ever be. Why wear a pair of shoes if they are going to pinch you anyway!?

[cfloveu]

Cfloveu...don't think that him and I have not spent many sleepless nights talking and trying to work this out...he doesn't want to change anything. He doesn't understand why him getting a job is such a big deal to me...your saying that whatever I have to do to stay in this relationship I should do...I don't want this relationship. I want a man...with a job, no wife, a place of his own, etc. This is not that man...nor will he ever be. Why wear a pair of shoes if they are going to pinch you anyways!!??

SoConfused: Don't you think this is a major decision in your life and has a drastic impact on your life?

[damaged]

It does has a drastic impact on her life... She's wasting time with a guy who doesn't deserve it... He doesn't even try...