[hjpan]

Good songs to cope..?

[bigbird213]

I've got TONS... what kind of music you listen to?

[hjpan]

I've got TONS....what kind of music you listen to?

Techno/trance
Disco
little bit of rap
rock

[bigbird213]

We'll I don't listen to most of that, rock is probably the only thing on there I can help you with, but it really depends on your mood. But here are a few songs (angry-ish, not the sad, feel sorry for myself kind)

-Crossfade - So Far Away
-Breaking Benjamin - Had Enough
-Fuel - Last Time
-3 Doors Down - Going Down in Flames

That's a few for now, if your looking for anything else let me know.

I hope some of those help you. They always inspired a little bit of anger/determination in me, which is great for getting into NC...

[hjpan]

Thanks

[hjpan]

Does having sex with random girls at parties get my ex off my mind?

All my guy-friends are like "dude! you need to go out to parties & effe girls!"

[hulena]

My girlfriend of one year and five month relationship dumped me. She said she doesn't love me anymore and it freaking sucks. After all this time, I question myself why was I so faithful to her? I could have cheated on her with other friends but I did not. I cajoled with her a bit to find out, but she says she doesn't have the feelings anymore. Right now, I'm just out of my head and still up. I can't sleep, think, concentrate, eat etc.

What she said afterwards was that we should be friends and date later on.

I don't know what the heck I should do =/

Please, don't say "get over it" cause that does not help.
Give good examples and such.

Stop thinking about so much. And if she did say yous want to date later you should have just rejected her because what if u guys go out again and the same thing happens over. You'll be even more fustrated and out of your mind!

[bigbird213]

Does having sex with random girls at parties get my ex off my mind?

All my guy-friends are like "dude! you need to go out to parties & effe girls!"

Can't tell you I have experience myself, as I don't think it would help me but - If you look around at some of the stories others have posted here, it doesn't appear to help. It might take your mind off it for the moment, but it certainly won't help you cope with the loss any...

I imagine doing this would probably make you miss the intimacy you shared with your ex - my main reason for staying away from it.

[guttedone]

Can't tell you I have experience myself, as I don't think it would help me but - If you look around at some of the stories others have posted here, it doesn't appear to help. It might take your mind off of it for the moment, but it certainly won't help you cope with the loss any...

I imagine doing this would probably make you miss the intimacy you shared with your ex - my main reason for staying away from it.

Well there is a famous quote "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone new" . Basically it means just what your friends are saying.

It all depends what your outlook is, personally I've wasted a lot of my life wallowing in self pity and being depressed after break ups and it really doesn't do any good, you need to force yourself to get out and pick yourself up and move on.

Live by the golden rule 'They only get one chance! ' makes your life a lot easier, otherwise you sit there thinking ,will she come back ? Or Is there hope for us? When you should be thinking 'She had her chance!! ' I'm not wasting another minute of my life even thinking about her'!!

Just remember the only person that holds you back is yourself!!

Go out with your mates and meet some new girls, you'll be surprised there are millions of lovely girls out there, you'll meet a new one like I did and think whyever did you waste all this time!!

[talaniman]

Go out with your mates and meet some new girls, you'll be surprised there are millions of lovely girls out there, you'll meet a new one like I did and think whyever did you waste all this time!!

Hindsight is 20/20, but your so right, there are a lot of females out there, so healing PDQ, is the way to go.

[damaged]

I agree... meeting new people is exciting.. lol.. you may find someone you're really attracted to or some new good friends... and about the sex part.. idk, it may work for you.. I think it's just a "quick fix", you may forget your ex for that moment but maybe then you'll miss her more... but we're all different.. maybe it works for you... if its something you would like to try, then go for it.. :)

[JBeaucaire]

Sex with random girls is a panacea. It will distract you while you're doing it, but afterward you're right where you left off.

You need to SERIOUSLY date other girls. Random sex means pointless interaction with women, the exact OPPOSITE of what you need for your mind.

Just my take on it.

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Side note: Random sex with random girls can always lead to random babies... something else I assume you don't need right now.

[hjpan]

stop thinking about so much. and if she did say yous wanna date later you should of just rejected her because what if u guys go out again and the same thing happens over. you'll be even more fustrated and out of your mind!

I understand.

[hjpan]

Sex with random girls is a panacea. It will distract you while you're doing it, but afterward you're right where you left off.

You need to SERIOUSLY date other girls. Random sex means pointless interaction with women, the exact OPPOSITE of what you need for your mind.

Just my take on it.

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Side note: Random sex with random girls can always lead to random babies...something else I assume you don't need right now.

Oh...

[hjpan]

Hindsight is 20/20, but your so right, there are a lot of females out there, so healing PDQ, is the way to go.

PDQ?

[talaniman]

PDQ- old school saying for;
Pretty
Darn
Quick

[hjpan]

PDQ- old school saying for;
Pretty
Darn
Quick

Oh :eek:

[Romefalls19]

Yea I agree, random sex is never a good idea. It won't help you get over them will only create more problems and make you feel lonely after it's over

[hjpan]

Yea I agree, random sex is never a good idea. It won't help you get over them will only create more problems and make you feel lonely after it's over

Ok...

Anyways..

I called up my recruiter for the Army and asked for more info on training and so forth. I told him that my girlfriend left and I decided to join for sure, but I needed to plan out my time so I know when I am available for training, which takes about 9 to 11 weeks.

[Romefalls19]

Dude, seriously... You posted the question, I just was reading the other posts and agreed so you give the attitude. Next time I'll just bypass one of your questions. Thanks for serving the military though