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    Umhoneybabeoo Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    May 30, 2008, 10:53 PM
    Cant Get Over My first Love.
    There's this guy I've been dating he has cheated on me 5 times and hangs out when ever he wants doesn't go to school anymore smokes all day and drink and partys every weekend I still seem to love him besides all of that... iiVe Tried so hard but I don't know what to do to get over himm/ SOme one please help me I cry everynite he's always hurts me physcally and emotionally :(
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    May 30, 2008, 11:19 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Umhoneybabeoo
    There's this guy ive been dating he has cheated on me 5 times and hangs out when ever he wants doesnt go to school anymore smokes all day and drink and partys every weekend i still seem to love him besides all of that... iiVe Tryed so hard but i jus dont know what to do to get over himm/ SOme one please help me i cry everynite hes always hurts me physcally and emotionally :(
    I too was in the same situation you are in now... You have to Know that He will NEVER be anything better then he is now... is this something you are willing to Settle for?. Believe me, It takes time, but the Hurt will slowly Go away... Its best to Cut All ties with this guy .
    { No Phone calls, No text,Block his number, or have yours changed ,Avoid places you know he hangs out at }.. This is More a habit then anything else, You see him as a challenge.. maybe you can change him... Believe me.. You Cant!. Just take things 1 day at a time.. and soon you will start to feel better... Good Luck, and Be Strong!
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    May 31, 2008, 07:55 AM
    You cry because you love him with your heart but everything else in you (your mind and your spirit) are telling you to move on.

    I hope this isn't too harsh, but it's clear when I say it this way... The crying you are experiencing is tantamount to a 5 year old asking for ice cream and being told no... So they cry. It's the same thing.

    You are upset emotionally over something you want, but isn't going to happen. Your love for him makes you stay and keep hoping, but you actually KNOW in your mind it's not going to change, and meanwhile your SPIRIT is being crushed by his horrible habits.

    So, you can keep letting your heart overrule your mind and your spirit, but that will simply result in more futile tears.

    If you take a VOTE, your mind and spirit outvote your heart, you move on. Again, most likely there will be tears, but at least THESE tears will lead to healing.

    It's your choice.

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