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hjpan · May 30, 2008, 01:39 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Now that explains a few things.

I was thinking of that too.. =/

hjpan · May 30, 2008, 02:16 PM

Well, I called her to congratulate her on finishing high school and we discussed the issue. It turns out that SHE LIED TO ME about moving 2hrs away from my university; instead, she's taking her courses online at her place. Not to mention, she kept on saying "I don't love you anymore" which is a lie since there's the missing link between the relationship and her life...

~

hjpan · May 30, 2008, 02:52 PM

I feel like sh1t

bigbird213 · May 30, 2008, 03:02 PM

She told you she didn't love you anymore.

Why would she lie about that? I think you are better off not talking to her and staying away from anything that has to do with her life. You should work getting healthier and learning to be happy by yourself.

I know its hard, but it is the best way.

hjpan · May 30, 2008, 03:32 PM

Originally Posted by bigbird213

She told you she didn't love you anymore.

Why would she lie about that? I think you are better off not talking to her and staying away from anything that has to do with her life. You should work getting healthier and learning to be happy by yourself.

I know its hard, but it is the best way.

I think you're mixing the two ideas. I know she does not love me anymore, but SHE LIED THAT SHE WAS GOING TO MOVE 2HRS AWAY FROM MY UNIV....

Anyways, I called her mom and thanked her for letting me date her daughter.
It was really hard to talk with her mom because I took her daughters' virginity even though they do not believe in premarital sex....

Sikativ · May 30, 2008, 03:35 PM

Not to be mean but you got to face the music man...

I know its not fun and not what you want to hear, I'm sure...

But face it head on and you'll get through it faster than if you just wallow in the past..

-Sik

hjpan · May 30, 2008, 03:40 PM

Originally Posted by Sikativ

not to be mean but you gotta face the music man...

i know its not fun and not what you want to hear, im sure...

but face it head on and you'll get through it faster than if you just wallow in the past..

-Sik

This is why I'm thinking of getting a psychology & human development degree... look for grad school...

I'll also enlist in the Army for a military career..

street race/drift as my hobby

Sikativ · May 30, 2008, 03:51 PM

Originally Posted by hjpan

This is why I'm thinking of getting a psychology & human development degree... look for grad school...

I'll also enlist in the Army for a military career..

street race/drift as my hobby

Good I am glad you have found your path...

Now just stick to it and you're set.

:)

-Sik

hjpan · May 30, 2008, 05:50 PM

Originally Posted by Sikativ

Good I am glad you have found your path...

now just stick to it and youre set.

:)

-Sik

Haha~ thanks~

I just feel down since I got dumped..
when ever I see couples holding hands, hugging, kissing, and such.. I feel like sh1t

Sikativ · May 30, 2008, 08:48 PM

Originally Posted by hjpan

Haha~ thanks~

I just feel down since I got dumped..
when ever I see couples holding hands, hugging, kissing, and such.. I feel like sh1t

Just look forward hjpan. You'll forget all this when you are happy with someone.

-Sik

hjpan · May 30, 2008, 09:30 PM

Originally Posted by Sikativ

Just look forward hjpan. you'll forget all this when you are happy with someone.

-Sik

Sometimes I want to force myself to have sex with random girls at parties...

liz28 · May 30, 2008, 10:47 PM

I really don't think having sex with random girls will heal your heart. It will just be releasing stress at that moment, but when its over the heartache will still be there.

You need to work on healing yourself from the inside. Everryone has experience some heartache in their life but it only makes you stronger after you heal, also rebound relationships are sometimes doom toward failare because your still hurting and first need to get over your ex before you can give yourself to that next person and it won't be fair to that girl to get half of you instead of your all.
This is the time not to beat on yourself because you did nothing wrong. Stop focusing on her and what she doing and where she going and move on. It easier said then done but I gotten dump in the past or left guys that was not on the same page as me and it hurt and it was hard for me to move on but I learned what don't kill you only makes you stronger. People have gone through worst breakups then your and survive, so don't live in the past but for tomorrow. Tomorrow a new day with new lessons to be learned and when the time is right your meet your match because she was not meet for you and didn't want the things you wanted so forget about her and focus on you. Believe me your meet someone else down the line but first you have to get over her so when you meet her your heart and mind will be ready.

hjpan · May 30, 2008, 11:08 PM

Originally Posted by liz28

I really dont think having sex with random girls will heal your heart. It will just be releasing stress at that moment, but when its over the heartache will still be there.

You need to work on healing yourself from the inside. Everryone has experience some heartache in their life but it only makes you stronger after you heal, also rebound relationships are sometimes doom toward failare because your still hurting and first need to get over your ex before you can give yourself to that next person and it wont be fair to that girl to get half of you instead of your all.
This is the time not to beat on yourself because you did nothing wrong. Stop focusing on her and what she doing and where she going and move on. It easier said then done but I gotten dump in the past or left guys that was not on the same page as me and it hurt and it was hard for me to move on but I learned what dont kill you only makes you stronger. People have gone through worst breakups then your and survive, so dont live in the past but for tomorrow. Tomorrow a new day with new lessons to be learned and when the time is right your meet your match because she was not meet for you and didnt want the things you wanted so forget about her and focus on you. Belive me your meet someone else down the line but first you have to get over her so when you meet her your heart and mind will be ready.

I just feel so strained. All my buddies encouraged me to just sex it up with other girls, but I felt uneasy with everything.

I understand the idea of what does not kill me makes me stronger =]~
it's just one year five months of time has been wasted, but I've been told it's a good experience for myself.

Thank you for your encouragement. I need much encouraging & motivation

talaniman · May 30, 2008, 11:12 PM

It was only a waste if you didn't enjoy it or learned nothing.

Time to move on!

liz28 · May 30, 2008, 11:18 PM

Everyone feel that way after being someone for sometime. I was with someone for 5 years when the relationship ended, can u even think of how I felt. People get divorce after being married for 10years or more and you can even gather how they coped.

So look at it like this yes 1+ years is long but image it was longer, so be happy you didn't invent more time and it ended when it did.

It just like when a baby learns to walk, they fall dust it off and try again because their determine.

hjpan · May 30, 2008, 11:34 PM

@ talaniman: I'm trying to cope..

@liz28: true =O

hjpan · May 31, 2008, 12:49 AM

Sometimes I want to call her, but I persist on not doing so..

Her mom wants me to privately talk since she likes me a lot =/

hjpan · May 31, 2008, 02:34 AM

damn it..

I can't get my ex out of my head~

rnfowl · May 31, 2008, 04:46 AM

Congrats to staying faithful to her even though you could have been different. This shows what type of person you are and in the future relationship you come into, continue to be the person you are and be faithful. Someday you will find the right one, and when you do you want to have been faithful to her. Trust is a big issue and sounds like you can be trusted. You sound like you are a strong person. Keep your head lifted and keep smiling. You are going through a rough patch but smoother roads lie ahead.

liz28 · May 31, 2008, 04:49 AM

You're using the wrong set of words. Never say you"cant", because you can.

Your mind is playing tricks on you. Stop talking to her mother for the time being because it will only make you remember the past.

Visualize life without her not with. When she is in your head force your mind to push her out.

If you keep continue the way your going, it will lead to depression. Part of get over someone is realizing the relatinship is over and then take it a day at a time.

How long has it been now? Your mother, friends, and people on here gave you some good advice, so use it, if you truly want to get over her.