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scortcho · May 27, 2008, 06:59 PM

So here's the deal, one of my best friends of all times moved all the way across the country. I've always liked her a lot but now that she left I've relised how much I love her. I know that sounds really cheesy but back off. The kicker is that she's coming back to visit in a couple weeks. I plan to tell her how I feel when she gets here but I want to do it just right. I want to let her know that I'm serious and that her friendship means everything to me. Below are a couple ideas I have and I'm still working on.

1st
I missed you so much and even though I knew you were coming back I felt like I lost you. I was devastated because I never told you how I feel about you. I never told you before but now I know that no matter what happens today tomorrow or the rest of our lives, I'll always love you.

2nd
When you went away I felt like I'd never see you again. I was really sad because I never told you how I really feel about you. I should have told you long ago that I love you. I always have and I always will.

Please let me know what you think. If I was saying this to you how would you react? Any changes to make them better?

Chery · May 27, 2008, 07:12 PM

They both sound good to me. And, only you know how close you are to tell how she would react.

Have you still kept communicating since she left and how much do you share with each other on a personal basis? That should give you a clue.

So, get the reassurance you need so that you can make some plans and good luck, dear.

Keep us posted.

f104 · May 28, 2008, 09:57 AM

I tried that a couple of times. Niether time was the result how I wished. I still remain friends with the individuals but the friendships are not what they were. Still your situation maybe different from mine. Every situation is different and perhaps she feels the same way about you. I simply asked "what would you do if I asked you on a date." She responded with "I do not see you that way. I see you as nothing more than a very close and very good friend." It was a nice rejection but the friendship is not what it once was and I miss that.

ZigZag07 · May 28, 2008, 10:01 AM

Wow. I think that she will be over joyed in excitement. If that happened to me, I would be so happy, and that's very sweet. Id say, follow your heart, and good luck!

MrsJoseph06 · May 28, 2008, 10:03 AM

Well that 1st one sounds like something from a movie! I like it hahaha! Anyway, I think you have to take the chance to see where your relationship goes. Even if she rejects you at least you won't spend your whole live wonder what could have been!

Farmgirl · May 28, 2008, 10:10 AM

Originally Posted by scortcho

so here's the deal, one of my best friends of all times moved all the way across the country. i've always liked her a lot but now that she left i've relised how much i love her. i know that sounds really cheesy but back off. the kicker is that she's coming back to visit in a couple weeks. i plan to tell her how i feel when she gets here but i want to do it just right. i want to let her know that i'm serious and that her friendship means everything to me. below are a couple ideas i have and i'm still working on.

1st
i missed you so much and even though i knew you were coming back i felt like i lost you. i was devastated because i never told you how i feel about you. i never told you before but now i know that no matter what happens today tomorrow or the rest of our lives, i'll always love you.

2nd
When you went away i felt like i'd never see you again. i was really sad because i never told you how i really feel about you. i should have told you long ago that i love you. i always have and i always will.

please let me know what you think. if i was saying this to you how would you react? any changes to make them better?

First of all I wish you the best of luck--I hope it works out in your favor. There is something that bugs me though... your two scenarios sound too scripted(?) and almost ring false. Maybe when you see her you should just let things flow naturally instead of trying to practice up some speech to impress her. Women like to be wooed, but we prefer things to come from the heart and not be well-rehearsed.

Again, good luck!

JBeaucaire · May 28, 2008, 11:57 AM

Scortcho, it's stuff like this that let's the "cool guys" swoop in and steal your love interest away. They don't bother with all this extra work, they go in and simply ask the girl out to something fun. While you're scripting scenarios, they're taking your girl out on the town!

Doesn't the mere act of asking a girl out pretty much TELL her you're interested? And if you invite her to something fun, well, that's even better, cause you're not making it all about you?

The cool guy would go and enjoy the fun event for itself, too, without spending the whole night "working" the girl. He'd just be cool, and fun, and she'd have such a good time she would already be hoping to do it again.

I say plan a little less, and get out there and "be cool" but be active.

mimi03 · May 28, 2008, 12:27 PM

I don't know the entire situation so I just hope that you realize that this could ruin your friendship and I hope you are prepared for that kind of loss... Is this risk worth the reward for you? I'm assuming it is, if so really think about her situation. What will this revelation do for her... she's already moved away, this would mean having a long distance relationship if she feels the same way.
I hate to be a pessimist but it seems a bit like you're climbing a mountain here... but I really hope you've thought this through from every possible angle
Maybe you could take her on a semi-romantic date to gauge things and depending on here response (if she's not awkward about it) then open up to her...
Oh and both of your options sound nice because they're your true feelings, *Best Wishes*

damaged · May 28, 2008, 01:47 PM

They both sound good... but don't worry about which one is better, just tell her how you really feel... :D

talaniman · May 28, 2008, 03:38 PM

I agree with mimi, long distance relationships are difficult. And that's what your asking her to consider.
Have fun, and stay friends.

babz888 · May 28, 2008, 05:18 PM

I think u should tell her. Mayb she feels the same way.. u don't get if u don't ask. X ;)

samolevski · Oct 6, 2010, 09:22 AM

Hey :) I just saw your question here and I'm in the same situation! I found out that I'm in love with my best friend, who is returning tomorrow from a 4-month trip to USA (I'm from Europe). So I would very much appreciate if you could give me some advice, based on your experience from two years ago. I really need some help on this one, so thank you so much if you could help me out here.