[needalittlehelp]

Hey, I'm 22 years old and I've been going out with this great gal for about a year and a half.

I was just wondering if its right for me to feel ticked off and truthfully jealous that she is talking to her ex's sister through aim or msn. She completely doesn't talk to her ex's anymore so why does she keep talking to his sister? It's pointless..

I honestly don't get it...
Should I say something or am I being silly and shoud let this go.

Any help would be great
Cheers.

[progunr]

You are being silly, you need to let it go.

If your level of trust in her is that low, then you may want to reconsider this relationship.

Your statement "it's pointless" shows that you don't have much consideration for your partner.
It is obviously "on point" as far as she is concerned, and I really don't see what harm could come from her taking to another female, even if it is her ex's sister.

What is it that makes you so paranoid over this situation?

[needalittlehelp]

To be honest, I don't feel threatened and I don't see any harm.

It's just all about, "the past is the past".
She had history and I don't like thinking about it.
Its unnecessary complication from my point of view.

If you say its silly then maybe it's just me and maybe I do have to let it go.
Any more suggestions?

[bigbird213]

The way you wrote your post makes me think that you tend to project your opinions on your girlfriend and want her to take the same opinions. It is fine that you have your own opinions, but to get upset if someone doesn't agree, or if someone has their own opinions is not okay.

It is her feeling that her ex's sister is not in the past. Perhaps she is just friends with her. You said yourself she is totally over her ex and you aren't threatened by that, so let it go. She is entitled to talk to pretty much anyone she wants.

If it was her ex, that's a different story, but it isn't.

[needalittlehelp]

Yeah, I guess that's true..
But the thought of it sounds wrong to me..

Is it just me?

[bigbird213]

I can see where your coming from, but I have recently grown enough to see that that sort of thinking is a little immature. A relationship is built on trust.

At least from my point of view, the perfect relationship is one where either person can do as they wish and not ever worry about being questioned or second guessed by the other because the mutual trust and love is there...

[needalittlehelp]

I completely agree.
But either way... isn't there a line that should be drawn?
Or is this just me being immature.

I guess that best way to put it is...
It's something that I wouldn't make a big deal about..
Its just something that makes me feel uneasy..
I could let it go... but I want to make sure that I'm justified for doing so.

[bigbird213]

I think I find it hard to relate with you because my relationship was sort of turned the other way. My ex would get jealous if I was talking to people she didn't know, or if she didn't know what I was talking about. Something like a text message that I responded to and didn't make any indication of who it was or what it was about would make her a little uneasy, and that is just unnecessary stress on the relationship. In addition, I hate the thought of someone trying to tell someone else who they can and can't talk to.

I'm sure you will get other opinions, but I think you know how I stand on this :)

[needalittlehelp]

Thanks dude :)

[turtlegirl16]

Well, what are they saying to each other? If its nothing to be goofed about then I think you should let it go.




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[talaniman]

Its none of your business, so let it go.